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I think my bro is under spell or it's just love ?

It all started years ago when he fall in love , they say true love doesn't exist but to him it exist ; according to him and what i witness, the relationship begins on "lies" yes lies that was uprooted at the begin of the relationship although it's a common thing to lie in other to save a worthy relationship to some ladies but to me you shouldn't hide things from someone u truly love .

Now let be brief u guys what actually happens , the relationship is a long distance one the lady stays in ibadan why he stays in lagos because of business stuff and he's a busy guy while the girl is schooling so they both don't have time for each others , bro later moved to ilorin from there to Ekiti mind u he always visit his babe in ibadan when he as time even if it's just two days and some time he stays in lagos (his major resident) .

what actually happens is that he goes extra miles for this girl and credit her anytime he as enough he wouldn't stand his babe ing through "rain not to talk of fire " if she calls claiming to be fighting hunger or couldn't pay any bills in schools just believe me bro will have the "money at hand " that specific time to give and vice versa - if he doesn't have , babe won't ask i was wondering if she's checking his balance with a spiritual mirror or what .

Time goes on this same way as this lady with time rarely give him time with one excuses or the other (He could sub for her but only her shadow will be online to chat with ) since the absent of attention takes in, my bro wasn't normal again (he's an introvert and a very timid guy) this bring room for him to think and worry a lot ... Worry a lot on a girl i can't count the load of gifts he as shower on her without collecting a dime from her ...

My bro could personally tell her not to buy even birthday gift for him but could get for her if it was her birthday (although he didn't like collecting from someone) it's normal of him ( he's so nice when he as enough , he's a rare gem) his friend told him to broke up with her ; i overheard them talking i couldn't forget he was been mock ,his pal was like "am not sure u have eating this gal up to five times since 4 years" --normally that's how guys do talk . Finally this girl called him and say it's over that's when things got worst they have to give my bro a compulsory leave in his work (since he very much valuable to them ) he wouldn't tell us what actually happened but my closeness to him make him later speak after series of persuasions ( it cause me a lot , he don't usually talk , he like keeping things to himself ) i was forced to call this girl (something i regret ) she told me it's over without a tangible reason to point at ...

The break up revealed to me personally that my bro has spend a lot on someone who i think is not worth it (from buying of cell phones *i can't still count four phones when they were together , jewelries , shoes etc ) he so much love her ...finally it works with the help of one of his female close pal
He got over it with times ( i witness real love , my bro could wake up to give a girl missed calls of over 100 rings ,missed calls o . She won't pick it and he keep on insisting on her a month or two later the lady posted a pic with another guy ) with all this bro wouldn't give up on her for months ,i try my best to keep parents finding out not... He return to work and get over it ..

Close to a year and a half , the lady called him back seeking for financial help giving excuses of her bf been somehow ( i find nothing bad in it but the way she approach him) she text him "telling him if she can't help he should delete her and even abuse him (gbam bro still rescue her and she apologize with tears , called me and also apologize , i couldn't talk I don't want my bro to feel bad but fire was burning inside me ) before we all know they are back together after a year and the half ( i think bro is under spell , and he started giving her money again ) i spoke with his old pal , a lady she told she sense the coming back of the lady and warn him to stop picking her calls and replying her texts ..she encourage him to find a lady all this while but bro rarely approach ladies (although i know his taste " a little " he didn't like slay queens or ladies dressing half nudes or with make up not to talk of someone who's not submissive or a bad cook/ ladies showing off) She's back without no shame and bro is still playing the lover boy , although i also see changes in her ...only God knows the amount he as sent to her during this lockdown i began to think

He's under spell ... Am worried , he became mumu that know one could mock because of his kindness and generosity ... Those who knows the lovers stories of his are all against him taking her back ( life isn't fair - most relationship is usual opposite one good partner and the other been bad )

So sorry i would not brief it i was writing base on my feelings thanks
am sincerely sorry for any typographical or grammatical errors

Ibadan juju from bere and one padi is at work

Your brother needs spiritual help, that's all I can say for now till the elders arrive

To maintain balance, we must have foolish men as we have the street-wise men like myself. Na this kind man girls dey find. Ride on brother.

Next time space your write up. Can't read this shit

why are you complaining?

won't you be happy if it is another person brother doing all this for you?


e dea pain when e be your brother abi?


better go and look for your boyfriend and leave the foolish boy to his fate

LOL it could be he only feels pity for her, and not love.
I used to have a girlfriend like that, in my late teens to early twenties.
Wanted to hit and run but her family background and childhood stories wouldn't lemme.
Empathy and comion is a curse.

Tell your brother, he should learn to be hard, sometimes. It pays, trust me.

Leave your bro alone.
He can only leave the girl out of his own freewill.

Allow life to teach him some lessons. I just hope he doesn't slip into depression after this.

coronavirus19:
Your brother needs spiritual help, that's all I can say for now till the elders arrive

Coro baba...how your side?

Lostz:
why are you complaining?

won't you be happy if it is another person brother doing all this for you?


e dea pain when e be your brother abi?


better go and look for your boyfriend and leave the foolish boy to his fate

No mind her.

Your bro is not under any spell. He will learn the hard way.

Ranting over an adult? He has chosen his path, let him be.

aghhh ibadan!
op ur bros is surely under a big spell
the babe don give am decimal 10:10 chop

Rhaspody:
Your bro is not under any spell. He will learn the hard way.

of course he is under a spell
decimal 10:10

IS IT ENVY THAT I SMELL? SOMEONE LIKE YOU WILL MAKE A VERY TERRIBLE MOTHER IN-LAW.

lefulefu:
of course he is under a spell
decimal 10:10

He's not under any spell. He thinks chasing ladies with money is the way to get them. I was once like that. Until I learnt the hard way.

He will learn. Give him time

lefulefu:
aghhh ibadan!
op ur bros is surely under a big spell
the babe don give am decimal 10:10 chop

qurantine

Op if you are the person on your dp, i will want to be under your own spell too

Lostz:
why are you complaining?

won't you be happy if it is another person brother doing all this for you?


e dea pain when e be your brother abi?


better go and look for your boyfriend and leave the foolish boy to his fate

i can't do that to someone son bro ! never

stobery:
Op if you are the person on your dp, i will want to be under your own spell too

.what's doing me isn't doing u .. i am

Rhaspody:


He's not under any spell. He thinks chasing ladies with money is the way to get them. I was once like that. Until I learnt the hard way.

He will learn. Give him time

not really ...he just like giving it's in him ...the same way he does to every one

CAPSLOCKED:
IS IT ENVY THAT I SMELL?
SOMEONE LIKE YOU WILL MAKE A VERY TERRIBLE MOTHER IN-LAW.

what should i be envy : am contented and God is providing

As he be say another girl, he de under spell, but if na person brother DE do for you, its love.

Women una logic try.

OP, never ever... I repeat, NEVER EVER use money to impress a Girl... I know what am saying. If you give a girl money, do it out of "normal giving". Don't give a girl money to "sustain" a relationship.

Pheals:

.what's doing me isn't doing u .. i am

Pls i want what is doing you to start doing me too

Adakintroy2:
As he be say another girl, he de under spell, but if na person brother DE do for you, its love.

Women una logic try.

because u have experience such doesn't mean every one is ; i don't depend on guys .Shalom

Wishing him the best of ....

yomi007k:



Coro baba...how your side?

I dey o baba, shey make I show for ur side?? I get small package for u and family

Pheals:
i can't do that to someone son bro ! never

just leave him to his fate.

only fate will bring him to his senses.

and try and get your own boyfriend

L