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Visiting My In-laws For The First Time – Advice & Experience Sharing Needed (667 Views)
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| Mtncardseller(m): 2:05pm On Jun 01 |
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Hello Nairalanders, I hope this meets you well. I’m a Yoruba Muslim, and I’ll be visiting my in-laws for the very first time soon (God willing). I want to make a good impression, show respect, and also stay true to my values and culture. Please, for those who have been through this stage (especially newlyweds or culturally-inclined folks), I’d love to hear your thoughts on: 1. What kind of gifts are appropriate to take along? 2. Cultural dos and don’ts to observe in a Yoruba setting? 3. Anything specific I should avoid saying or doing? 4. How to greet and interact properly with elders and younger ones? All respectful advice and experience sharing is welcome 1 Like |
| AllBlack: 3:16pm On Jun 01 |
Mtncardseller: Are you already married or about to? 1 Like |
| hakeemhakeem(m): 6:56pm On Jun 01 |
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Let start from what you should wear the way you dress is the way you will be address 1 get a good genuine fabric with match cap 2 get a pack of Malta drinks as a Muslim 3 get 5k in an envelope for the women when going 4 cartoon of biscuits for the kids 5 speaks softly and responds with reasoning 2 Likes |
| Peakdesign23(f): 7:07pm On Jun 01 |
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Dress decently. Buy a good wine. Gifts aren't necessary for now. No busy body just be yourself. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Mtncardseller(m): 8:04pm On Jun 01 |
AllBlack:about to |
| Peskid147: 10:39pm On Jun 01 |
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When I went to represent my younger brother though he is in Turkey. We are Igbo while the in-laws are yoruba (ogun State). We went with wine, plantains,yam and money for the Bride to be and her mum. And it went well.
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| tanigororo: 2:01am On Jun 02 |
Mtncardseller:Don't go alone, go with your younger brother or a good friend. 1 Like 1 Share |
| flokii: 2:38am On Jun 02 |
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Dress well, wear a good perfume. Buy a gift for your in-laws (non alcoholic wine or malt should do). Be polite and observe table manners, drink water with glass etc. Go along with your brother or friend, depending on how you interact with your friends and family . Be respectful, as an omoluabi that you are, you must treat everyone with respect be it old or young Best of luck. 1 Like |
| James4358(m): 6:36am On Jun 02 |
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Well, mine was quite different cause I was already knaking Thier daughter as a long time boyfriend... Just be yourself and avoid any dramas. Don't stay long to avoid seeing finish
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| APOPTOSIS: 7:58am On Jun 02 |
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My Humble Advice: Get a well charged Recording device, go with it. Activate it and leave it in one of the couches there, when everyone is seated and excuse yourself to use their restroom in the midst of your conversation with them. Get into the restroom and spend at least 30 mins. Come out and deactivate your device quietly. Go home and replay it and truly know what they think of you. Come back and thank me on this forum. 1 Like |
| Esthered: 9:09am On Jun 02 |
APOPTOSIS:. Na wa o. Did you do this in your time sir? 4 Likes |
| Zonefree(m): 10:12am On Jun 02 |
Peskid147:Wetin dem give una as una dey go back? 1 Like |
| Starboytwo(m): 12:22pm On Jun 02 |
Esthered:what if they see the device?? What will be your explanation? You know that is automatic disqualification. |
| youngrhosy(m): 12:40pm On Jun 02 |
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May the Lord be with you.
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| gunners160(m): 12:45pm On Jun 02 |
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The first and most important thing is to dress decently. If possible wear native or senators wear 2. Dont talk much when it is not necessary. Only answer what you can answer. If you cant just smile and keep mute 3. Dont go with gifts. Dont even buy anything for them just go with small change. U can put it inside envelope and present it to them when leaving. Please dont do more than urself if not some family go wan bill you. 4. If you are ready for marriage ( traditional ) tell them you will want to collect the list as soon as they have deliberated on it. This will make them happy and make them knw that you are serious. 5. Lastly no too send anybody papa......Just maintain steeze 2 Likes |
| SKhanmi: 1:32pm On Jun 02 |
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Just be yourself. Don't talk too much. And depending on how much you know about them. Just Take some gifts along, don't show off Be confident. That's the key. |
| gunners160(m): 1:40pm On Jun 02 |
hakeemhakeem:Because of ordinary greetings na him person son go buy all these items. Na gold him wan marry habi na senator pikin. Do you know how much is a pack of Malt? So he should spend close to 50k because of him wan marry. Dont listen to this abeg........ In fact they should be the one to be happy that you are coming. E easy to marry? 1 Like |
| AllBlack: 3:35pm On Jun 02 |
Mtncardseller: Be yourself... with a little moderation and confidence. No need for new clothes on the first visit, dry clean your clothes and make sure you wear shoes. No rubber slippers, ripped jeans and t-shirt. Maintain steady communication with your woman. Know the personality of her parents. Two bottles of groundnut, one bottle of wine (non alcoholic) and 7k worth of apples would do the trick. Once again, maintain communication. good luck |
| Pepperdemisback: 4:01pm On Jun 02 |
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Don't wear covered shoes, it is a sign of arrogance, 
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| helinues: 4:56pm On Jun 02 |
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Dress simple and be yourself
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| ItisWell22(f): 7:13pm On Jun 02 |
Peakdesign23: This. 💯 1 Like |
