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I want to marry a second wife.

There's this saying that when you have tasted the fury of the second wife, you will the graciousness of the first wife.

Let me tell you something very deep, no one is perfect and everyone you meet was built by someone who put in much effort and lots of energy to bring out the best characters and potential you think you want to inherit and enjoy in the person.

Ask yourself, who have you put in enough energy to build in your life?

That's why there's what is called courtship before marriage. It gives you the opportunity to learn and realise if you are compatible, that means if you can build such person or it's beyond your grade.

We are all attracted to something, if you feel or you know you are not naturally attracted to someone for genuine reasons please stop and look for your personal happiness and joy.

Because if what you are looking for is for classical reason and material reasons, those things would fade away and your true colours or attitude will eventually manifest and you will be totally disgrace and humiliated.

Marrying a woman is either for true love or other reasons, but you must be careful you are not attracted to a woman for other reasons, because you will really hate her when she shows you the ugly face of bitter women.

Are you happy with your first wife? What in the world was the reason you married her?

And why do you want to marry a second wife?

My late paternal grandfather married a second wife, only for him to later run and never looked back.

According to the Pedi tradition back then, a man was forbidden from coming into with his wife and newborn baby for a period of twelve months... After the twelve months period elapsed, he went to his second wife excited to see his new baby, only to find her pregnant again... ... Other village men were enjoying her while he was away...

From that day on, he never attempted to take a second wife ever again and he even advised my father, who's his son from his first wife against it... ... Some of us only got to know about the second wife after he ed away... He never forgave that woman until the day of his death..😂😂😂

Are you rich?
Can you take me to Dubai?
Do you need sidechick?

tit:
Are you rich?
Can you take me to Dubai?
Do you need sidechick?

Second wife he said not side chick aunty Ade 😞

Carry on ...

Our forefathers married multiple wives and they lived longer to enjoy the fruit of their labor........But how come men of nowadays are forming woke and the same time be dying young after marrying only one wife?

You have my full abeg

Most women will not frown at side chick but would threating for divorce if their husband decides to take a second wife.

Here are my own observations about what could be the advantage of polygamy if both parties (the husband and the first wife) agree to bring in second wife and not just the idea of the man alone because that is usually where the problem starts from.

1. Single ladies: It will reduce the number of single ladies on the street as the numbers becoming too high these days, almost 3 out of 5 ladies above 28 are not married so it's better we revisit this old culture of our forefathers before it's too late. You don't have to be wealthy to marry more than one, with proper planning, if two heads are better than one, then three should be way better than one

2. Higher savings If you have two women that didn't come with the mind to compete with each other but to elevate the family and work together then you could even save faster to buy your family car or build your family house because if three people are working no matter how poor the job is , they could still save faster.

3. Sex A man is naturally not designed to sleep with the same woman forever, a man releases millions of sperm per minute and i believe the designer didn't create man with all these biological difference for men to stick with one woman. An average man has erection at least twice a day, one in the morning and one at night, even if your one wife is ready to give you sex twice a day, its like being given the option of eating rice twice a day, you may be hungry, but you won't be satisfied with rice twice or three times a day. This is the major reason why your husbands would always have a side chick no matter how pretty or endowed you are.

4. Better Sex for the women : If you ask 90 percent of married women, most of them will tell you they only have sex once a month, i know some married men that would tell you they only sleep with their wife once in three months. Because the man is the one who usually initial sex , and having sex with one woman reduces the telesterion which would in turn affect the sextual life of the woman. But if this man has the opportunity to switch between two women, the first wife will even enjoy sex more than when it was only her. Sex is like food to men and its like being given the option of eating just rice for the rest of your life , three months down the line you would get tired but if someone prepares eba for you along the line , you would go back to rice and leak plate.

5. Health : Research has shown that having more than 21 sex a month can reduce prostate cancer in men, 21 sex a month is not too much, some men masturbate twice a day which is 60 times a month , I do not think an average normal woman would want to have sex 60 times a month. I don't think so.

I rest my case...

koladata:
Most women will not frown at side chick but would threating for divorce if their husband decides to take a second wife.

Here are my own observations about what could be the advantage of polygamy if both parties (the husband and the first wife) agree to bring in second wife and not just the idea of the man alone because that is usually where the problem starts from.

1. Single ladies: It will reduce the number of single ladies on the street as the numbers becoming too high these days, almost 3 out of 5 ladies above 28 are not married so it's better we revisit this old culture of our forefathers before it's too late. You don't have to be wealthy to marry more than one, with proper planning, if two heads are better than one, then three should be way better than one

2. Higher savings If you have two women that didn't come with the mind to compete with each other but to elevate the family and work together then you could even save faster to buy your family car or build your family house because if three people are working no matter how poor the job is , they could still save faster.

3. Sex A man is naturally not designed to sleep with the same woman forever, a man releases millions of sperm per minute and i believe the designer didn't create man with all these biological difference for men to stick with one woman. An average man has erection at least twice a day, one in the morning and one at night, even if your one wife is ready to give you sex twice a day, its like being given the option of eating rice twice a day, you may be hungry, but you won't be satisfied with rice twice or three times a day. This is the major reason why your husbands would always have a side chick no matter how pretty or endowed you are.

4. Better Sex for the women : If you ask 90 percent of married women, most of them will tell you they only have sex once a month, i know some married men that would tell you they only sleep with their wife once in three months. Because the man is the one who usually initial sex , and having sex with one woman reduces the telesterion which would in turn affect the sextual life of the woman. But if this man has the opportunity to switch between two women, the first wife will even enjoy sex more than when it was only her. Sex is like food to men and its like being given the option of eating just rice for the rest of your life , three months down the line you would get tired but if someone prepares eba for you along the line , you would go back to rice and leak plate.

5. Health : Research has shown that having more than 21 sex a month can reduce prostate cancer in men, 21 sex a month is not too much, some men masturbate twice a day which is 60 times a month , I do not think an average normal woman would want to have sex 60 times a month. I don't think so.

I rest my case...

Thanks for your contribution.

But I'd love to remind you that sex isn't just about pleasure, it's deeper than you can see.

Sex is a connection between two agreed people, one male and one female having sex together is called marriage, that's why the truth said, " what God has ed together no man should put asunder"


Anything added is called polygamous marriage or inserting two different dicks into one vaginae which was invented by the insatiable desires of men.

I read an article about God making man upright but how men sought for sinful ways to corrupt themselves. You clearly can the fruits of the works of the flesh. Do you ever think you know better than the creator who created or designed the first man, called male and female?

And the truth says "he who made them in the beginning would have made them one male and three females.

Alright you are busy making a case for makes why they should marry more than one wife, what about the females?

What happens if the female marries more than one person.

Like she marrying three men at the same time. Are the male going to accept her like that

Is it going to be acceptable in the society?

These things were not there in the beginning, men only inserted this ideology which is breeding broken family and jealousy in the family union.

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No matter how you try to convince a woman that polygamy is to their own advantage if properly planned, they will never understand and would try as much as possible to raise a counter claim because it is easier to wake up a sleeping woman than a woman who is pretending to be asleep.

Meanwhile I'll still go ahead and give you some obvious differences in our designs that shows that the designer didn't design men to be with one woman.

1. Female private part comes with a virginity, which means you are not even supposed to have more than one partner who will deflower the female and while she gets use to his size either big or small. It is understandable that that is usually not the case in this age and time because economic situation of this 21st century is now different from the old age. You could marry as early as 18 in those days or after first mensuration but now you have to finish university and some other things and before a woman finishes university, the hormones are already flying around. But that is not to forget the initial reason for the virginity seal in women is for their male partner and the seal is one not two. Meanwhile men don't have a virginity seal on their private part which means you can take more than one.


2. You get Hot once a month or in a few days of the month during ovulation, while a healthy man gets Hot every single day. It's not our fault; it's the way we were being designed.


3. We produce excess sperm every minute which if not being shred off properly , it is one of the major known course of prostate cancer in men. if you understand the biology of where that prostrate is , you will see that if the sperm is not frequently shred of, that particular area will have serious problem and you don't even need to be medical doctor to understand this , just google it and check some diagrams.

Sunnyshinylight:


Thanks for your contribution.

But I'd love to remind you that sex isn't just about pleasure, it's deeper than you can see.

Sex is a connection between two agreed people, one male and one female having sex together is called marriage, that's why the truth said, " what God has ed together no man should put asunder"


Anything added is called polygamous marriage or inserting two different dicks into one vaginae which was invented by the insatiable desires of men.

I read an article about God making man upright but how men sought for sinful ways to corrupt themselves. You clearly can the fruits of the works of the flesh. Do you ever think you know better than the creator who created or designed the first man, called male and female?

And the truth says "he who made them in the beginning would have made them one male and three females.

Alright you are busy making a case for makes why they should marry more than one wife, what about the females?

What happens if the female marries more than one person.

Like she marrying three men at the same time. Are the male going to accept her like that

Is it going to be acceptable in the society?

These things were not there in the beginning, men only inserted this ideology which is breeding broken family and jealousy in the family union.

Anti-polygamist are always pointing out polygamous marriages that didnt work as evidence to dismiss polygamy as a sophisticated, time-tested method of family formation, while ignoring the ones that works.

Polygamy if done rightly, is as good as monogamy, and it favour women the most.

Lots of women are single at 40's, and facing all kinds of challenges bearing kids. A man who wants children should marry a second wife, instead of divorce her barren or pre-menopausal wife.

A widow with children can be a second wife to a man who have the capacity to cater for her and her kids, giving them the protection and provisions to flourish under a masculine structure and care.

I will not monogamy in cases where it involves a man with more than one woman in her 20s though

Samantha125:
My late paternal grandfather married a second wife, only for him to later run and never looked back.

According to the Pedi tradition back then, a man was forbidden from coming into with his wife and newborn baby for a period of twelve months... After the twelve months period elapsed, he went to his second wife excited to see his new baby, only to find her pregnant again... ... Other village men were enjoying her while he was away...

From that day on, he never attempted to take a second wife ever again and he even advised my father, who's his son from his first wife against it... ... Some of us only got to know about the second wife after he ed away... He never forgave that woman until the day of his death..😂😂😂

What sort of tradition is that? It doesn't make sense. The originators had hidden motives towards people's wives obviously

pansophist:
Anti-polygamist are always pointing out polygamous marriages that didnt work as evidence to dismiss polygamy as a sophisticated, time-tested method of family formation, while ignoring the ones that works.

Polygamy if done rightly, is as good as monogamy, and it favour women the most.

Lots of women are single at 40's, and facing all kinds of challenges bearing kids. A man who wants children should marry a second wife, instead of divorce her barren or pre-menopausal wife.

A widow with children can be a second wife to a man who have the capacity to cater for her and her kids, giving them the protection and provisions to flourish under a masculine structure and care.

I will not monogamy in cases where it involves a man with more than one woman in her 20s though

Hope you would allow a woman marry more than one man?

And your profile is showing (f)

If you can handle and manage wahala you are good to go and marry a 2nd 3rd or have multiple wives

Your choice!

Chances are the child she gave birth to isn't also his because he spent most of his time away working in another province, he'd only write letters, send money and gifts back home while he'd visit after some months... This same child tried to fight my family over some of my late grandfather's properties upon his death, but failed woefully.

I once came across this one letter he sent to my grandmother asking her about the family livestock and the underwears he had sent her...🤣🤣🤣

dkidd:

What sort of tradition is that? It doesn't make sense. The originators had hidden motives towards people's wives obviously

Samantha125:
Chances are the child she gave birth to isn't also his because he spent most of his time away working in another province, he'd only write letters, send money and gifts back home while he'd visit after some months... This same child tried to fight my family over some of my late grandfather's properties upon his death, but failed woefully.

I once came across this one letter he sent to my grandmother asking her about the family livestock and the underwears he had sent her...🤣🤣🤣

Lol most likely. It's not an encouraging culture at all. And from his behaviour U might just be right he's not the biological father.

But a FEMALE (F) moniker wants to marry a second wife??.........I need a clarification in that area first before any other thing.

Sunnyshinylight:


Hope you would allow a woman marry more than one man?

For wetin na

Sunnyshinylight:


Hope you would allow a woman marry more than one man?

Sure, if she is wealthy enough to provide, protect, and lead the men even while pregnant for any one of them

pansophist:


Sure, if she is wealthy enough to provide, protect, and lead the men even while pregnant for any one of them