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I have this colleague at work(A lady) she has all a good woman should have skills and character wise, Thou we’ve not been too close prior to this moment but few weeks ago I noticed that this lady has been finding it convenient and relaxing staying around me most especially spending time in my office with me.

I Actually love this lady from onset but base on my principle which is “I don’t date at work place” I have always give her this strict face and boundaries.

But Sincerely speaking, As I move more closer to her I find her more attractive to me, She is single and I really wish I can wife her( Not for dating alone) I am ready to even settle down with what I have.

Thou we don’t talk about Love or relationships anytime we are together, But with indications it shows she like me just naturally, She address me as her only confided at that our organization, She prefer staying with me in my office during her free period.


Guy I need advice on what to do please 🤔🤔 Should I talk to her about relationship?

What if she said NO🥺🥺

My fear is me getting to loose my respect, Just maybe if she feels I am not suitable for and she says No.


Mind You we are bother colleagues but I am higher than her in Rank and in duty.

This is a tricky one.

But I will say tell her.
I mean, what's the worst that can happen?

She's not going to kill u, my nigga

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SprinceARMANI:
I have this colleague at work(A lady) she has all a good woman should have skills and character wise, Thou we’ve not been too close prior to this moment but few weeks ago I noticed that this lady has been finding it convenient and relaxing staying around me most especially spending time in my office with me.

I Actually love this lady from onset but base on my principle which is “I don’t date at work place” I have always give her this strict face and boundaries.

But Sincerely speaking, As I move more closer to her I find her more attractive to me, She is single and I really wish I can wife her( Not for dating alone) I am ready to even settle down with what I have.

Thou we don’t talk about Love or relationships anytime we are together, But with indications it shows she like me just naturally, She address me as her only confided at that our organization, She prefer staying with me in my office during her free period.


Guy I need advice on what to do please 🤔🤔 Should I talk to her about relationship?

What if she said NO🥺🥺

My fear is me getting to loose my respect, Just maybe if she feels I am not suitable for and she says No.


Mind You we are bother colleagues but I am higher than her in Rank and in duty.

Consider work etiquette
Consider your employees view on dating at work
Consider what you truly want
Who resigns if you get married?
Who resigns if an accusation comes up?
Are you here direct supervisor? If yes🥺 what would your HR say about it?

In the end,if your intention towards her is pure and she agrees then y'all be fine!

Women are looking for a serious man a d I bet you ,that you are the PRIZE!
Na she win if she agrees to you sir

You love someone you are yet to talk to, not even using like.

Na una likes girls dey serve early breakfast

stanvesco:


Consider work etiquette
Consider your employees view on dating at work
Consider what you truly want
Who resigns if you get married?
Who resigns if an accusation comes up?
Are you here direct supervisor? If yes🥺 what would your HR say about it?

In the end,if your intention towards her is pure and she agrees then y'all be fine!

Women are looking for a serious man a d I bet you ,that you are the PRIZE!
Na she win if she agrees to you sir

Thanks so much for your response, We actually do not have issue with the organization management ( The funniest part is that even my GM(General Manager) has told me countless time to ask the girl hand in marriage reason been that they both hails from same tribe and He likes me so much just like a father to son relationship, So he has persuaded me so many time to engage her and see if she will be willing to accept me.

Also our Chairman has for any staff member that got married to each other 100%.

Regarding who is to resign, She will be the one to do that. She has other skills which I also have idea off, Again our work doesnt require anyone to even resign cuz we work at different level and capacity

SprinceARMANI:
I have this colleague at work(A lady) she has all a good woman should have skills and character wise, Thou we’ve not been too close prior to this moment but few weeks ago I noticed that this lady has been finding it convenient and relaxing staying around me most especially spending time in my office with me.

I Actually love this lady from onset but base on my principle which is “I don’t date at work place” I have always give her this strict face and boundaries.

But Sincerely speaking, As I move more closer to her I find her more attractive to me, She is single and I really wish I can wife her( Not for dating alone) I am ready to even settle down with what I have.

Thou we don’t talk about Love or relationships anytime we are together, But with indications it shows she like me just naturally, She address me as her only confided at that our organization, She prefer staying with me in my office during her free period.


Guy I need advice on what to do please 🤔🤔 Should I talk to her about relationship?

What if she said NO🥺🥺

My fear is me getting to loose my respect, Just maybe if she feels I am not suitable for and she says No.


Mind You we are bother colleagues but I am higher than her in Rank and in duty.

A man of no principle. With your principle, it would surely end in disgrace for you.

Why? Because having fulfilled your sexual fantasies in her, your eyes would now clear, to leave the relationship, it would hard, to continue the relationship, it would difficult as well, because of ur principle.
The girl would make the relationship opens, she would start disrespecting you, and if you don't careful, you will also loose ur respect before her friends.


Meanwhile, lesson learnt here........man and woman who are not family, shouldn't become close friends, closeness does bring feelings which would eventually lead to relationship(sex)

Avoid a Natasha and Akpabio episode so you don't get sued for sexual harassment . They're many fish in the ocean, you only attracted to that fish cos she is at your face everyday, that's why people .

Stop wasting time, tell her you like her, you have nothing to lose

SprinceARMANI:


Thanks so much for your response, We actually do not have issue with the organization management ( The funniest part is that even my GM(General Manager) has told me countless time to ask the girl hand in marriage reason been that they both hails from same tribe and He likes me so much just like a father to son relationship, So he has persuaded me so many time to engage her and see if she will be willing to accept me.

Also our Chairman has for any staff member that got married to each other 100%.

Regarding who is to resign, She will be the one to do that. She has other skills which I also have idea off, Again our work doesnt require anyone to even resign cuz we work at different level and capacity

Then I don't see why you should be hesitating oh.

I saw a beautiful lady yesterday and was smiling until I saw her husband! Unfine man with unstraight legs. Just shoot your shot man!
You would definitely hit it

What are you waiting for? you already have an answer to this you even explained further in one of the comments you quoted above u just dy look for people wey go ginger you nor worry senior man fire down, shoot your shot and you’d be surprised she will say yes. Good luck

Somebody is in love already. Ok, calm down . Don't show desperation, it scares women. Find a good time not necessary a perfect time and ask her out. Whatever her response, don't show either disappointment or excitement.

Do not ask her out twice. Just keep being yourself. Don't call or text her too much. It shows neediness. Let her see you focusing on your job. Stylishly flirt with other ladies. If she's interested the signs will show. She calls u, chat u up first. One big mistake u should never make: DON'T BUY HER A DAMN GIFT. DON'T HELP HER WITHOUT ASKING. DON'T BE TOO AVAILABLE. This is attractive, trust me

stanvesco:


Then I don't see why you should be hesitating oh.

I saw a beautiful lady yesterday and was smiling until I saw her husband! Unfine man with unstraight legs. Just shoot your shot man!
You would definitely hit it

Most women no get spec...just be confident with words and be capable with money. Thats all.

Talk to her straight up if you are truly want to marry her,at first she may want to behave as an average naija lady but hanging out will solve it.

It'll not work

SprinceARMANI:
I have this colleague at work(A lady)

See finish..... L.O.A.D.I.N.G

SprinceARMANI:


Thanks so much for your response, We actually do not have issue with the organization management ( The funniest part is that even my GM(General Manager) has told me countless time to ask the girl hand in marriage reason been that they both hails from same tribe and He likes me so much just like a father to son relationship, So he has persuaded me so many time to engage her and see if she will be willing to accept me.

Also our Chairman has for any staff member that got married to each other 100%.

Regarding who is to resign, She will be the one to do that. She has other skills which I also have idea off, Again our work doesnt require anyone to even resign cuz we work at different level and capacity

If you we my son I'd slap you for being very dull and acting like a Sisi. Come on man up and toast that girl immediately

You have a good intention for her, so your case must be classified as ''sui generis'', or in layman's term, an exemption.

Yes, you should approach her. There is never a wrong time to meet a right person. It is your job as a man to find a good woman, and if you find her, you must not miss your chance.

At worse, she will say no, and whichever awkwardness you will feel afterwards is nothing compare to the guilt you will feel if you didnt approach, but what if she agreed?

Then you have the whole world to gain. It will only get better from there.

You like her, you don't love her

I just skimmed through Ur write up I don't know why I couldn't read it probably because of certain things my eyes picked. U don't know a girl and Ur already claiming love and Wife? Omor this antispam bot just dey humble me to be typing cleaner words sha lol... Meanwhile na wah for U Op na so Una dey love and wife woman? Or is it desperation? Only U don't date at work place same only U dey fall in love with girl when U nor know for same work place. You're nothing near principled. I have never dated and will ever date a neighbour no matter how hot and tempting she might be and I have conquered many temptations that way. As for U. Do what pleases U.

And I think the only real problem U have is confidence to talk to the girl and be free with her. Get closer. Good luck

To think you already concluded she’d be to one to resign tho..
Goodluck going forward to her..
What do I do here seff than to save you from your bedmatics woes

I was once in your shoe. Don't try it. She will say NO but that is not the worse. The bad part of it is that she would start disrespecting you terribly and nothing you can do. All because you once asked her out. Besides, how could you turn a female into a gist partner. You are supposed to have a fellow man. Such leads to see finish from the opposite gender