NewStats: 3,264,963 , 8,185,225 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 11:59 PM f1fk

Hi everyone, I want you to give your honest opinion about this my family issue.

I came from a family of eight, my mother gave birth to us 4 from 1father and 4 for another father, both fathers are late and we only have our mother. Offcourse we have a bread winner which is the second born and have allot of money to the point that she just recently acquire a house of over 200million in lekki. Right from when i was little they have refuse to help us the younger ones but only take care of our mother, my mum goes to UK 2times every year.

Growing up you wonder why we are suffered when we have sisters in uk doing perfectly well.

Now the main issue that made me create this topic is that... My own sister from my father side successfully relocated to Uk and it was a suprise to our 2nd born which is the bread winner, apparently she was not happy about it and went ahead to show it to her by not accommodating them, constant complaining and when my sister requested for a loan she declined, later my sister moved to another state in UK. At a point my sister needed to change her student Visa to work visa and seek the assistance of our 2nd born ( the bread winner), she refused to help her and even strangers in Uk where suprised why she could do that to her own sister when she does it on a regular for outsiders.

could this be sipiritual? how can you be so good to outsiders and be evil towards your own blood? i honestly feel they have bewitched her in her church because she carry the oluso for head.

Whats your honest opinion or is it a normal thing in the world

Lajaishola:
Hi everyone, I want you to give your honest opinion about this my family issue.

I came from a family of eight, my mother gave birth to us 4 from 1father and 4 for another father, both fathers are late and we only have our mother. Offcourse we have a bread winner which is the second born and have allot of money to the point that she just recently acquire a house of over 200million in lekki. Right from when i was little they have refuse to help us the younger ones but only take care of our mother, my run goes to UK 2times every year.

Growing up you wonder why we are suffered when we have sisters in uk doing perfectly well.

Now the main issue that made me create this topic is that... My own sistee from my father side successfully relocated to Uk and it was a suprise to our 2nd born which is the bread winner, apparently she was not happy about it and went ahead to show it to her by not accommodating them, constant complaining and when my sister requested for a loan she declined, later my sister moved to another state in UK. At a point my sister needed to change her student Visa to work visa and seek the assistance of our 2nd born ( the bread winner), she refused to help her and even strangera in Uk where suprised why she could do that to her own sister when she does it on a regular for outsiders.

could this be sipiritual? how can you be so good to outsiders and be evil towards your own blood? i honestly feel they have bewitched her in her church because she carry the oluso for head.

Whats your honest opinion or is it a normal thing in the world

she know once she help her,she'll be higher than her that's the reason

Jah save me from my frenemies 🙏

"A man's own enemies are from his household ". Understand this and you will immediately understand the motives of your sibling's reluctance to help

Make your own money and stop feeling entitled

She's obviously tired of your entitlement mentality, she's only the breadwinner in her own house and in as much as she can help where she can, you guys are not her responsibility.

Haven't you considered that maybe she wants to build a life for herself and invest in her future while you guys are busy weighing her down by piling her up with too much financial responsibilities?

Easy answer. She was oga kpatapkata in the family and the only one in UK. And suddenly her half-sister is in UK too. Not only that, she did it without her help. Not only that, I'm sure your younger sister thought once she got to UK she had made it and money will start flowing like water and she will show her older sister how it's done, and she will be constantly sending monry home - unlike that her "stingy" older half-sister. Now she's seeing it's not easy at all, that UK is still more struggling and still needing help like she needed while in Nigeria!

Tell your sister to do all it takes to get settled. Once settled every other thing will fall in place.
I won't blame your step sister for not welcoming her due to familiarity sake its advisable your sister stay her lane, hope for survival tactics and win against all odds. It is well with you people.

I think it's a case of sibling rivalries. You don't know what your older sister did to get to where she is now. I'm guessing she (the bread winner) is from your mums first husband. You don't know the kind of relationship she had with your dad.

Everyone has their own traumas and triggers so it's impossible to conclude that someone is evil. You contradict your story because on one hand she is the breadwinner who ed your mother and by extension you, but on the other hand she is evil!?

There's a lot of entitlement in your thinking. I hope the younger sister finds her way and may her journey not make her bitter.

I think it's just family dynamics from a polyandrous setting. The apparent bad blood from your elder sister had been built early when your mother married your father, but the pain and hurt may not have waned over the years.
Man up bro, face front and keep praying. The Lord will surely make a way for you guys.

Lajaishola:

could this be sipiritual? how can you be so good to outsiders and be evil towards your own blood? i honestly feel they have bewitched her in her church because she carry the oluso for head.

Whats your honest opinion or is it a normal thing in the world

that's where I stopped reading.
use your own SPIRITUAL to get money and sponsor everyone and also give loans.

Imagine you saying they are doing PERFECTLY FINE just because they are in the UK. are you the one that made it PERFECT? if they show you their silent struggles and tears will you wait?

Your mother should fix the mess amongst her kids. Such shouldn't be happening when she's still alive.

Your sister who is the breadwinner does not owe you anything.

Each one if you must chart his or her own course in life.

Thank God your sibling relocated to the UK
Didn't she have a plan to survive without becoming dependent on her step sister?

Take it as a favour if any is given otherwise, fight your own battles.

Stop this entitlement mentality.

You as a guy should be more informed as not to depend on anyone for your success in life.

Fight your battles. Struggle for yourself.
Heaven smiles on those who fight, not those who wait for their sister to lift them up

Siblings who share the same mother are usually closer than those with the same fathers. Did you guys grow up together? If you didn't, then I think the fault is from your mom for not fostering a family that preaches love. It's even disheartening that she is enjoying the largesse of your sibling and turns a blind eye to the suffering of her other kids. As for your other sister in the UK, encourage her to push harder, and she will be fine.

Socratiz:
Your sister who is the breadwinner does not owe you anything.

Each one if you must chart his or her own course in life.

Thank God your sibling relocated to the UK
Didn't she have a plan to survive without becoming dependent on her step sister?

Take it as a favour if any is given otherwise, fight your own battles.

Stop this entitlement mentality.

You as a guy should be more informed as not to depend on anyone for your success in life.

Fight your battles. Struggle for yourself.
Heaven smiles on those who fight, not those who wait for their sister to lift them up

Stale. If you cannot depend on your family in times of need, who else should you depend on? If that same sister needs a kidney and one of her half siblings who is a match denies her, will she be happy? Family love is the most important thing, and it shouldn't always be about money. Let me also state that it is people like you who will still ask him to go to his family if he makes a financial request online.

This is a common occurrence in many nigerian homes. I do not think you have an entitlement mentality because in this case, you're not making any demands from anyone. It is natural to seek or desire help from someone so close to you.

I would advice you redirect your mind. Stop seeing that your sister as a breadwinner. Act like she isn't in the picture while maintaining cordial relationship with all. If you don't, you'll build hatred and enemity in your heart. Thing is, you can't force people to help you, regardless of who they are. Live your life and try make a success of it.

Even if dem call family meeting ontop this matter. E no sure say that your rich sister money go reach you. I bin dey wonder if na all the lineage of Dangote get money?Our help comes from God. Look to God for your help.