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Is This Why Married Men Have Side Chics? Will I End Up Like Them? (3369 Views)

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tunnyl(m): 8:21pm On May 18
You never imagined you'd be asking yourself this question right?, but here you are. Marriage was supposed to bring stability, love, and lifelong companionship, yet the one thing you never saw coming is the slow withdrawal of intimacy.

At first, you make excuses for her. She is tired, stressed, adjusting. But as time stretches on, you start wondering. Is this what happened to my dad and other married men before they gave up and got side chics? Am I heading down the same path?

You try to fix things the right way. You plan romantic gestures, have deep conversations, and remind her how important intimacy is in marriage. But despite your efforts, nothing changes. Frustration sets in, and you start withdrawing emotionally. The thoughts get darker. Is this how it happens? Do men stray because they feel abandoned? Should I just accept that marriage means suffering in silence?

If you truly want to fight for your marriage without cheating, the solution is not temptation but effort. Cheating leads to guilt, broken trust, and deeper problems. Instead, focus on reconnecting.

Here are some ways to reconnect with your wife and strengthen your marriage:

1. Have open conversations without pressure or blame.

2. Show small daily affection like compliments and thoughtful gestures.

3. Help ease stress by sharing responsibilities and offering .

4. Spend quality time together through dates, shared hobbies, and bonding moments.

5. Be patient and consistent instead of pressuring for immediate change.

Marriage is more than physical closeness. The key is understanding, connection, and rebuilding the trust that keeps love strong.

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Jashub: 8:30pm On May 18
Why is the fault always from the man...why don't you clowns ever tell women how to behave like women and be intimate with their partners? Nonsense

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Gbadugbakun(m): 8:32pm On May 18
Jashub:
Why is the fault always from the man...why don't you clowns ever tell women how to behave like women and be intimate with their partners? Nonsense
I feel like kissing you right now for talking sense into his head.

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Jashub: 8:34pm On May 18
Gbadugbakun:

I feel like kissing you right now for talking sense into his head.
Don't mind the simp...

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DelilahMakinde(f): 8:40pm On May 18
cheesy
DonEd(m): 8:48pm On May 18
So, after all the stress a man goes through daily trying to settle never ending bills, you still think it's his responsibility to still be affectionate and whatever u wrote there?

Perhaps, u are still eating "mummy thank you"

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Caaz: 9:25pm On May 18
Thank you Op....kisses.













Lolx.



cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy.

Its my husband duty to pamper me,care for me,Asked how my day went,spoil me with gifts.....because I m his priority.
Samakus(m): 9:40pm On May 18
Caaz:
Thank you Op....kisses.













Lolx.



cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy.

Its my husband duty to pamper me,care for me,Asked how my day went,spoil me with gifts.....because I m his priority.







I hope you're not crossing major highway with this brain

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Ay04z(m): 10:18pm On May 18
D wey woman dey suffer there hubby with opueh ehn... Sometimes I wonder maybe na because dey have started nursing babies
casualobserver: 12:01am On May 19
tunnyl:
You never imagined you'd be asking yourself this question right?, but here you are. Marriage was supposed to bring stability, love, and lifelong companionship, yet the one thing you never saw coming is the slow withdrawal of intimacy.

At first, you make excuses for her. She is tired, stressed, adjusting. But as time stretches on, you start wondering. Is this what happened to my dad and other married men before they gave up and got side chics? Am I heading down the same path?

You try to fix things the right way. You plan romantic gestures, have deep conversations, and remind her how important intimacy is in marriage. But despite your efforts, nothing changes. Frustration sets in, and you start withdrawing emotionally. The thoughts get darker. Is this how it happens? Do men stray because they feel abandoned? Should I just accept that marriage means suffering in silence?

If you truly want to fight for your marriage without cheating, the solution is not temptation but effort. Cheating leads to guilt, broken trust, and deeper problems. Instead, focus on reconnecting.

Here are some ways to reconnect with your wife and strengthen your marriage:

1. Have open conversations without pressure or blame.

2. Show small daily affection like compliments and thoughtful gestures.

3. Help ease stress by sharing responsibilities and offering .

4. Spend quality time together through dates, shared hobbies, and bonding moments.

5. Be patient and consistent instead of pressuring for immediate change.

Marriage is more than physical closeness. The key is understanding, connection, and rebuilding the trust that keeps love strong.

You will learn!

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Helpout12345: 12:06am On May 19
casualobserver:


You will learn!

In a hard way self.

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Helpout12345: 12:08am On May 19
All those things hardly work once the women get to that stage.

Stop wasting your time. Get yourself sorted out or stay celibate.

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Double0h7(f): 12:42am On May 19
I have a question for the men; what happens when a man experiences ED or just grows old and can no longer do the do? Should his wife turn to local boys to do his job?

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LordIsaac(m): 1:13am On May 19
Jashub:
Why is the fault always from the man...why don't you clowns ever tell women how to behave like women and be intimate with their partners? Nonsense
Exactly!

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Vision101(m): 1:38am On May 19
Double0h7:
I have a question for the men what happens when a man experiences ED or just grows old and can no longer do the do? Should his wife turn to local boys to do his job?
Of course....no harm in seeking help
saintmm(m): 3:11am On May 19
This write up must be copy and paste.
Because the reality of that is not up to 10%.
We sit back and write rules to govern marriage as if we are the originator of the institution.
Have you considered that those that brought all this wokeism into marriage still have divorce in their dictionary and they told us the rate is high.
So if those things work, why divorce?


You can't maximize the functions of any appliance until you have gone through the manufacturer manual and follow the instructions thereof.

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Helpout12345: 3:28am On May 19
Double0h7:
I have a question for the men what happens when a man experiences ED or just grows old and can no longer do the do? Should his wife turn to local boys to do his job?

Many women that are in that situation go outside too. It's not a new thing. It was there during our ancestors and it will continue to happen.

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tanigororo: 4:01am On May 19
tunnyl:
You never imagined you'd be asking yourself this question right?, but here you are. Marriage was supposed to bring stability, love, and lifelong companionship, yet the one thing you never saw coming is the slow withdrawal of intimacy.

At first, you make excuses for her. She is tired, stressed, adjusting. But as time stretches on, you start wondering. Is this what happened to my dad and other married men before they gave up and got side chics? Am I heading down the same path?

You try to fix things the right way. You plan romantic gestures, have deep conversations, and remind her how important intimacy is in marriage. But despite your efforts, nothing changes. Frustration sets in, and you start withdrawing emotionally. The thoughts get darker. Is this how it happens? Do men stray because they feel abandoned? Should I just accept that marriage means suffering in silence?

If you truly want to fight for your marriage without cheating, the solution is not temptation but effort. Cheating leads to guilt, broken trust, and deeper problems. Instead, focus on reconnecting.

Here are some ways to reconnect with your wife and strengthen your marriage:

1. Have open conversations without pressure or blame.

2. Show small daily affection like compliments and thoughtful gestures.

3. Help ease stress by sharing responsibilities and offering .

4. Spend quality time together through dates, shared hobbies, and bonding moments.

5. Be patient and consistent instead of pressuring for immediate change.

Marriage is more than physical closeness. The key is understanding, connection, and rebuilding the trust that keeps love strong.
How do you know all of these has not been tried to no avail?
Are you married?

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Double0h7(f): 4:19am On May 19
Helpout12345:


Many women that are in that situation go outside too. It's not a new thing. It was there during our ancestors and it will continue to happen.

If that's the case then we ride at dawn 😂
Double0h7(f): 4:19am On May 19
Vision101:

Of course....no harm in seeking help

grin

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dederocs(m): 6:12am On May 19
Most women have their clit cut, especially Nigerian women, that is why they see sex as forced, something they do in exchange for something...they really don't enjoy sex.

Try and find a woman with a good libido level.

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AllBlack: 7:46am On May 19
tunnyl:

Here are some ways to reconnect with your wife and strengthen your marriage:

The train has left the station, if you like buy flowers everyday.
And by the way, are you married?
Is your marriage up to 15 years?

I am hoping your answer to both questions is YES if not, you deserve a knock on your head.

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Kaymicheal852: 8:23am On May 19
Jashub:
Why is the fault always from the man...why don't you clowns ever tell women how to behave like women and be intimate with their partners? Nonsense



You’re very right , I deal with this by ignoring her completely, I start accept the fact that my sexual life is gone after some months into the marriage, , so we just become a room mate , always doing my responsibility but never try to get intimate with her , after some weeks she came running back and I rejected her few times, since then she never rejected me again, but now I’m even much less Hot and I hardly get hard , instead of looking for a side chick I just turn off my sexual urge


If side chick’s is what what works for you or maybe renting a call girl please do it , don’t let one daughter of eve frustrate your life , I’m just someone who doesn’t get hard when I have some other important things I’m doing , if not maybe I would have 2 side chicks already

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Kaymicheal852: 8:26am On May 19
Caaz:
Thank you Op....kisses.




So what you’re telling me is that a man should still be paying again for something he have already paid for and paying for everyday












Lolx.



cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy.

Its my husband duty to pamper me,care for me,Asked how my day went,spoil me with gifts.....because I m his priority.






lilyheaven: 8:38am On May 19
Jashub:
Why is the fault always from the man...why don't you clowns ever tell women how to behave like women and be intimate with their partners? Nonsense
lol!
He is complicating himself?

He said earlier that after everything the man did, no change.

He is still dishing advice to men 🤣🤣🤣

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Nadingo: 10:16am On May 19
Gbadugbakun:

I feel like kissing you right now for talking sense into his head.
Are you gay?

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Double0h7(f): 10:25am On May 19
Kaymicheal852:




You’re very right , I deal with this by ignoring her completely, I start accept the fact that my sexual life is gone after some months into the marriage, , so we just become a room mate , always doing my responsibility but never try to get intimate with her , after some weeks she came running back and I rejected her few times, since then she never rejected me again, but now I’m even much less Hot and I hardly get hard , instead of looking for a side chick I just turn off my sexual urge


If side chick’s is what what works for you or maybe renting a call girl please do it , don’t let one daughter of eve frustrate your life , I’m just someone who doesn’t get hard when I have some other important things I’m doing , if not maybe I would have 2 side chicks already

Tf grin shocked
kelechi50: 12:15pm On May 19
Inside life of married men, formally I was against side chick as a Christian but what friends share about they wives, I'm like is that how one will continue for life in the name of marriage.
Kaymicheal852:




You’re very right , I deal with this by ignoring her completely, I start accept the fact that my sexual life is gone after some months into the marriage, , so we just become a room mate , always doing my responsibility but never try to get intimate with her , after some weeks she came running back and I rejected her few times, since then she never rejected me again, but now I’m even much less Hot and I hardly get hard , instead of looking for a side chick I just turn off my sexual urge


If side chick’s is what what works for you or maybe renting a call girl please do it , don’t let one daughter of eve frustrate your life , I’m just someone who doesn’t get hard when I have some other important things I’m doing , if not maybe I would have 2 side chicks already
I have come to realize why our forefathers married many wives.
GoodSpirit: 12:24pm On May 19
Caaz:
Thank you Op....kisses.










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Lolx.



cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy.

Its my husband duty to pamper me,care for me,Asked how my day went,spoil me with gifts.....because I m his priority.








It's your duty to make yourself happy,wake up from your fantasy dreams.. you expect someone who expects to go hustle make money and come back to stres himself because of your fantasies dey play. When the man does qll of these what then aree you required to do for him?

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