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A Sweden-based East African woman, Maureen Bahema, has advised married women to play the role of a humble maid to their husbands.
Bahema who calls herself a ‘submissive provider’ reminded women that many maids have used the ‘spirit of humility’ to snatch their madam's husbands. 

Be the QUEEN you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their madam’s husbands. Be your man's queen and also be his maid,” she wrote.

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It is simply because the man is a Fool.

If you are a "good" humble wife, the foolish husband will now fall for the wild bad smelling bitch of a housegirl.

All the top Nigerian celebrities and politicians we know, which one has a maid snatched?
None!

QuinQ:
All the top Nigerian celebrities and politicians we know, which one has a maid snatched?
None!

The maid may not snatch it formally... The maid might have secured continued favour and sexual intimacy with the man while the wife constantly have quarells about intimacy and lack of attention from her husband. Not knowing someone is already sharing her man with her

FreeSpirited:

The maid may not snatch it formally... The maid might have secured continued favour and sexual intimacy with the man while the wife constantly have quarells about intimacy and lack of attention from her husband. Not knowing someone is already sharing her man with her

You people can deceive unaself.

Who told you that the wife does not know?

Women wey don see your cheating even before e happen.

Na d one wey don happen na im she no kon know?

No dey deceive yourself, she already know. Na because she know say if she attack you now, na dat time una go remind her say devil too still dey inside una.

Dat na why she gas pretend dey plan her own.

sex with my maid? Of all the women in the world. Walahi some men suppose to dey chop for the same plate with pig.

If i hear that even my own brother does such a thing, i will degrade him to the lowest to the point where he will commit suicide. Not talking of friends because we simply can never be friends if I hear such.

FreeSpirited:

The maid may not snatch it formally... The maid might have secured continued favour and sexual intimacy with the man while the wife constantly have quarells about intimacy and lack of attention from her husband. Not knowing someone is already sharing her man with her

But this is NOT what I see. What I see is that the maid snatched the husband, which never really happens. As for being side chick, that's bound to happen because the attraction is too much - maid wants to taste madam's dick and the husband as a man is attracted to what he has not tasted b4 maybe also younger plus the forbidden fruit element

QuinQ:


But this is NOT what I see. What I see is that the maid snatched the husband, which never really happens. As for being side chick, that's bound to happen because the attraction is too much - maid wants to taste madam's dick and the husband as a man is attracted to what he has not tasted b4 maybe also younger plus the forbidden fruit element

Well I think man may not make the maid the new wife cos of class difference... And taste
..
But in the situation where class difference isn't wide it always happen. For instance in certain countries abroad where it's possible for educated immigrants to work as maid short term, if the class difference btw maid and wife isn't too much, man may make maid a wife.... Or it may trigger husband to consider divorce if wife is already a pain in the ass of the husband...
..

AllBlack:
sex with my maid? Of all the women in the world. Walahi some men suppose to dey chop for the same plate with pig.

If i hear that even my own brother does such a thing, i will degrade him to the lowest to the point where he will commit suicide. Not talking of friends because we simply can never be friends if I hear such.

Hypocrite. A young slim maid you’ve never had vs your fat domineering wife you argue and quarrel with. Just pray you're never in a position of being tempted (you're home alone with her and she's flashing you and giving you all the signs!)

FreeSpirited:

Well I think man may not make the maid the new wife cos of class difference... And taste
..
But in the situation where class difference isn't wide it always happen. For instance in certain countries abroad where it's possible for educated immigrants to work as maid short term, if the class difference btw maid and wife isn't too much, man may make maid a wife.... Or it may trigger husband to consider divorce if wife is already a pain in the ass of the husband...
..

I don't think it's class difference at all (men marry far beneath themselves all the time). I think in most cases it's because they really can't divorce the wife - it's just not possible. Also the enormous scandal that'll trail the whole thing!

QuinQ:
Hypocrite. A young slim maid you’ve never had vs your fat domineering wife you sometimes quarrel and argue with. Just pray you're never tempted

So anyone who doesn't agree with the option of humping his maid is a hypocrite to you? Or just because that is what is obtainable in your kindred then you think it is universal law?

My heartfelt sympathy for you and your wife. So sad you had to end up with such a wife.
My wife doesn't even weigh up to 83kg and she's the kindest, funniest, sweetest human being I have met even after all our years of being married but if ever she turns out to be like your wife (are you even married?) in future then there are millions of elegant girls or women outside and it doesn't have to be my housemaid.
It is quite understandable if you do not know how to maintain your position in life just because your maid is slim and you have limited options and your default setting is to fall down to your maid sexually with the excuse of your wife being fat, ugly and boring.
We are not the same. I am her master and she is my maid and that is how it is going to be.

Speaking of temptations, even with a beautiful wife, I have side chics which I selected by myself according to criteria and it is not even about temptation, it is about WHAT I WANT and I can never want my housemaid. Get it?

i doubt you will ever understand, it is far above your mental capacity but let me summarise for you... Know your place in life and play your role accordingly.

It's called testosterone, if you don't have a high volume of it , then you are not healthy enough. I'm not ing having sex with maid but when a healthy man's testosterone is very high, then it has a mind of its own and it want what it wants.

USA president Thomas Jefferson had affair with is maid, Bill Clinton had affair with white house intern.

AllBlack:
sex with my maid? Of all the women in the world. Walahi some men suppose to dey chop for the same plate with pig.

If i hear that even my own brother does such a thing, i will degrade him to the lowest to the point where he will commit suicide. Not talking of friends because we simply can never be friends if I hear such.

koladata:
It's called testosterone, if you don't have it, then you are not healthy enough. I'm not ing having sex with maid but testosterone has a mind of it own and it want what it wants.

Tell me about testosterone. I am just seeing it for the first time in my decades of living on earth. How does it work? is it an app? Please share your wisdom.
It is quite understandable if you have no shame, no pride, no sense of elevation and do not know how to maintain your position in life just because you have testosterone and you have limited options and your default setting is to fall down to your maid sexually with the excuse of having testosterone.
Hello! Are there no women outside your house again? Are you that LOW that you and your testosterone can't get a girl to fukc unless it is your housemaid? You walk around with this kind of thinking and you say you are healthy?

We are not the same.

No it's a cooking pot

AllBlack:

Tell me about testosterone. I am just seeing it for the first time in my decades of living on earth. How does it work? is it an app? Please share your wisdom.
It is quite understandable if you do not know how to maintain your position in life just because you have testosterone and you have limited options and your default setting is to fall down to your maid sexually with the excuse of your having testosterone.
Are there no women outside your house again? You can't get a girl to fukc unless it is your housemaid?
We are not the same. I am her master and she is my maid and that is how it is going to be.

koladata:

USA president Thomas Jefferson had affair with is maid, Bill Clinton had affair with white house intern.

Just because a man is at the position of PRESIDENT doesn't make his own values a yardstick for every man.

So if you see a president who slept with his mother does that mean you must fukc your mother too? abi whats the purpose of your useless example? Why don't you bring up examples of presidents who refused to bring themselves to such level with their maids? Abi na only rubbish examples dey inspire your life?

Know your own self and I am telling you that I have staff and maid. I will not bring myself so low to have anything sexual with them.

Women plenty for outside.

koladata:
No it's a cooking pot

The one your housemaid uses to cook for you? Bon Apetit.

I neither agree or disagree with her submission. Though any woman whose maid does more of the wife's responsibility,stands the chance of losing her man to the maid. Especially the ones provided by an organisation.

If you have a high telesterion, you will understand how it pushes you to do these things, and the only thing that holds you back is God and discipline. If you don't have a high telesterion you won't understand, and you will always come to defend it. I have never slept with a maid, I do have staff as an entrepreneur for over a decade and I won't sleep with my staff either, I've done it once earlier in my career and i paid heavily for it as my business suffered it. but when you have a high testosterone, it pushes you to do all these things.

Don't defend what you don't know, I know you would claim you have it too and nothing is wrong with you sexually and how you have discipline, but trust me, it is higher in some men and medically it can be measured which means some men have a higher telesterion than others and these set of men are usually very very very healthy. They can go 10 years without visiting hospital or take one single drug.

A healthy man with a high telesterion level feels the urge to have sex more than twice a day, they could finish having sex right now and after 5min they want to have another one... so with who , his girlfriend or wife? or take it outside like you claim?

Medical issues are not cured by advice, just like ... no number of talks can make a kleptomaniac to stop steeling, it is hormonal

Obasanjo is over 90 and i can bet he's healthier than most of the bellow 30 that i know, and this man once had intimacy with his son's wife. That is high testosterone at work. It has a mind of it own and when the urge comes for these set of people, it pushes them like demon.

AllBlack:


Just because a man is at the position of PRESIDENT doesn't make his own values a yardstick for every man.

So if you see a president who slept with his mother does that mean you must fukc your mother too? abi whats the purpose of your useless example? Why don't you bring up examples of presidents who refused to bring themselves to such level with their maids? Abi na only rubbish examples dey inspire your life?

Know your own self and I am telling you that I have staff and maid. I will not bring myself so low to have anything sexual with them.

Women plenty for outside.

FreeSpirited:

Well I think man may not make the maid the new wife cos of class difference... And taste
..
But in the situation where class difference isn't wide it always happen. For instance in certain countries abroad where it's possible for educated immigrants to work as maid short term, if the class difference btw maid and wife isn't too much, man may make maid a wife.... Or it may trigger husband to consider divorce if wife is already a pain in the ass of the husband...
..

So the issue is class difference not morals

AllBlack:


So anyone who doesn't agree with the option of humping his maid is a hypocrite to you? Or just because that is what is obtainable in your kindred then you think it is universal law?

My heartfelt sympathy for you and your wife. So sad you had to end up with such a wife.
My wife doesn't even weigh up to 83kg and she's the kindest, funniest, sweetest human being I have met even after all our years of being married but if ever she turns out to be like your wife (are you even married?) in future then there are millions of elegant girls or women outside and it doesn't have to be my housemaid.
It is quite understandable if you do not know how to maintain your position in life just because your maid is slim and you have limited options and your default setting is to fall down to your maid sexually with the excuse of your wife being fat, ugly and boring.
We are not the same. I am her master and she is my maid and that is how it is going to be.

Speaking of temptations, even with a beautiful wife, I have side chics which I selected by myself according to criteria and it is not even about temptation, it is about WHAT I WANT and I can never want my housemaid. Get it?

i doubt you will ever understand, it is far above your mental capacity but let me summarise for you... Know your place in life and play your role accordingly.

See this one. Everybody knows konji does NOT know place in life, especially male konji. Your side chick is NOT there with you while you're relaxed at home, serving you, being very close to you, and being "innocently" seductive. Of course there are always exceptions, but men usually end up becoming very "friendly" with a female that's with them a lot.

The annoying thing is the way you were talking like it's unheard of:
"Such men will chop for the same plate with pig. If i hear that even my own brother does such a thing, i will degrade him to the lowest to the point where he will commit suicide. Not talking of friends because we simply can never be friends if I hear such."

AllBlack:
sex with my maid? Of all the women in the world. Walahi some men suppose to dey chop for the same plate with pig.

If i hear that even my own brother does such a thing, i will degrade him to the lowest to the point where he will commit suicide. Not talking of friends because we simply can never be friends if I hear such.

Because your maid is not a human? Though I don't subscribe to the idea of a man having affairs with his maid--just like his other workers, your post made it seem like those maids are not humans with emotions simply because they are working for you. That simply shows your level of mental development. In other words, if she's a sexy ant working in your company, you wont have a problem cheating on your wife with her?

koladata:
If you have a high telesterion, you will understand how it pushes you to do these things, and the only thing that holds you back is God and discipline. If you don't have a high telesterion you won't understand, and you will always come to defend it. I have never slept with a maid, I do have staff as an entrepreneur for over a decade and I won't sleep with my staff either, I've done it once earlier in my career and i paid heavily for it as my business suffered it. but when you have a high testosterone, it pushes you to do all these things.

Don't defend what you don't know, I know you would claim you have it too and nothing is wrong with you sexually and how you have discipline, but trust me, it is higher in some men and medically it can be measured which means some men have a higher telesterion than others and these set of men are usually very very very healthy. They can go 10 years without visiting hospital or take one single drug.

A healthy man with a high telesterion level feels the urge to have sex more than twice a day, they could finish having sex right now and after 5min they want to have another one... so with who , his girlfriend or wife? or take it outside like you claim?

Medical issues are not cured by advice, just like ... no number of talks can make a kleptomaniac to stop steeling, it is hormonal

Obasanjo is over 90 and i can bet he's healthier than most of the bellow 30 that i know, and this man once had intimacy with his son's wife. That is high testosterone at work. It has a mind of it own and when the urge comes for these set of people, it pushes them like demon.

No mind the Allblack guy. He thinks outside person is same as someone always there with you.
There are men who are almost gay and therefore can resist any woman, but most men are NOT like that!

koladata:


Don't defend what you don't know, I know you would claim you have it too and nothing is wrong with you sexually and how you have discipline

Obasanjo is over 90 and i can bet he's healthier than most of the bellow 30 that i know, and this man once had intimacy with his son's wife. That is high testosterone at work. It has a mind of it own and when the urge comes for these set of people, it pushes them like demon.

What I dont know? And you know it more than me just because you sleep with your maid and I don't?

Do you know my fitness level, libido or my sexual/medical history? You know how many side chics I have? You are saying what you know? Oh sorry, I don't even have testosterone at all. Why are you trying to debate aesthetics? is that even logical? Why is it hard for you to accept that not all men subscribe to such?
I bet you can sleep with your neighbours child, your wife's sister, your very own sister and blame it on testosterone just to relegate your lack of principle, pride & self worth to the background.
You throw away your sense of right & wrong and cloud it with the excuse of having testosterone. Imagine telling me you know the exact reason OBJ slept with his daughter inlaw. Your knowledge is supreme. You have even left the maid zone and stepped it higher. Kudos.

What else do you have in your list of sexual DEPRAVITY that can be blamed on the testosterone that is stronger than your common sense and resistance? rape? incest? Try harder.
So anyone who doesn't subscribe to sleeping with his maid is having medical issue? nice try.

When you catch your son fuvking your daughter, please apply you vast knowledge and blame it on testosterone.

A man who wants to cheat with whosoever, will still cheat.

It’s just worrisome how some are justifying it and name calling those who see such condescension as an abomination. 😢

AllBlack:


It is quite understandable if you do not know how to maintain your position in life just because your maid is slim and you have limited options and your default setting is to fall down to your maid sexually with the excuse of your wife being fat, ugly and boring.
We are not the same. I am her master and she is my maid and that is how it is going to be.


i doubt you will ever understand, it is far above your mental capacity but let me summarise for you... Know your place in life and play your role accordingly.

At the bolded is the summary.

Jman06:
Because your maid is not a human? Though I don't subscribe to the idea of a man having affairs with his maid--just like his other workers, your post made it seem like those maids are not humans with emotions simply because they are working for you. That simply shows your level of mental development. In other words, if she's a sexy ant working in your company, you wont have a problem cheating on your wife with her?

No! she is android. Try harder with your sentiment.
my maid is my maid. I will not bring myself to do anything sexual with her. She can get her Sexual matters sorted elsewhere if she wants to as long as it doesn't disturb her duties but it is just too daunting for you to comprehend this to the point you are the one wondering if she is not human and that mirrors how your mind works.
So just because she is human then I must fukc her? I ire your level of mental development but sadly, it is not for me.
Have you seen my staff before? If you no fine, e go hard for me to employ you

Sexy ant? e be like say you just begin to see woman. Wait first, How old are you? Do you have a maid? You get female staff? let me be sure I am not wasting words like pouring water in a basket.

Remijuice:

At the bolded is the summary.

🤣😂
I swear this topic needs to appear om front page so we can see how people really reason in society. See one of them blaming it on testosterone instead of owning up to his sexual mental issues. Na wah oh.

It's frustrating that nothing seems to work in this country, not even having a healthy conversation with reasonable people. I connect with people on quora from all over the world and enjoy good discussions without any trouble. But here, some people brag about being educated yet can’t handle a one-minute talk without name calling just because someone disagrees with them.

As long as I have replied you without any name calling... It is your son that will have sex with your daughter. And so shall it be, the day it will happen you won't know about it.

And I don't blame you I blame myself for replying to you.

AllBlack:


What I dont know? And you know it more than me just because you sleep with your maid and I don't?

Do you know my fitness level, libido or my sexual/medical history? You know how many side chics I have? You are saying what you know? Oh sorry, I don't even have testosterone at all. Why are you trying to debate aesthetics? is that logical? Why is it hard for you to accept that not all men subscribe to such?
I bet you can sleep with your neighbours child, your wife's sister, your very own sister and blame it on testosterone just to relegate you lack of principle, pride & self worth to the background.
You throw away your sense of right & wrong and cloud it with the excuse of testosterone. Imagine telling me you know the exact reason OBJ slept with his daughter inlaw. Your knowledge is supreme. You have even left the maid zone and stepped it higher. Kudos. What else do you have in your list of sexual DEPRAVITY that can be blamed on the testosterone that is stronger than your common sense and resistance? rape? incest? Try harder.
So anyone who doesn't subscribe to sleeping with his maid is having medical issue? nice try.

When you catch your son fuvking your daughter, please apply you vast knowledge and blame it on testosterone.

koladata:
It's frustrating that nothing seems to work in this country, not even having a healthy conversation with reasonable people. I connect with people on quora from all over the world and enjoy good discussions without any trouble. But here, some people brag about being educated yet can’t handle a one-minute talk without name calling just because someone disagrees with them.

As long as I have replied you without any name calling... It is your son that will have sex with your daughter. And so shall it be, the day it will happen you won't know about it.

And I don't blame you I blame myself for replying to you.

I triple dare you to show me where I called you names.

Why do have an issue with me talking of the possibility of your son having sex with your daughter? Is it a bad thing to you? What happened to blaming it on testosterone? or it finally dawned on you that you are only trying to cloud sexual depravity with testosterone and you can no longer substaciate it?
I know it is just a clever way for you to dodge all the other questions I put in front of you but feel free to RUN AWAY. I totally understand.

By the way, I don't have a QUORA or REDDIT and my conversations are limited to nairaland. My conversations are usually UNREASONABLE so do your best to steer clear if you know you only want to be clever by half.

beejay4all:
A Sweden-based East African woman, Maureen Bahema, has advised married women to play the role of a humble maid to their husbands.
Bahema who calls herself a ‘submissive provider’ reminded women that many maids have used the ‘spirit of humility’ to snatch their madam's husbands. 

Be the QUEEN you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their madam’s husbands. Be your man's queen and also be his maid,” she wrote.

Na manipulation jare! Many women no humble, give them small power.

QuinQ:

See this one. Everybody knows konji does NOT know place in life, especially male konji. Your side chick is NOT there with you while you're relaxed at home, serving you, being very close to you, and being "innocently" seductive. Of course there are always exceptions,

1 Bolded. Thats for you. If you like dive your maid for simply doing her job. You can make yourself very close to her and don't draw boundaries and blame it on konji. Na you sabi. No matter how you paint the scenario to sell your narrative, no be every meat i dey chop.

2 Bolded. Thats for me. Case closed.

Wahala

koladata:
If you have a high telesterion, you will understand how it pushes you to do these things, and the only thing that holds you back is God and discipline. If you don't have a high telesterion you won't understand, and you will always come to defend it. I have never slept with a maid, I do have staff as an entrepreneur for over a decade and I won't sleep with my staff either, I've done it once earlier in my career and i paid heavily for it as my business suffered it. but when you have a high testosterone, it pushes you to do all these things.

Don't defend what you don't know, I know you would claim you have it too and nothing is wrong with you sexually and how you have discipline, but trust me, it is higher in some men and medically it can be measured which means some men have a higher telesterion than others and these set of men are usually very very very healthy. They can go 10 years without visiting hospital or take one single drug.

A healthy man with a high telesterion level feels the urge to have sex more than twice a day, they could finish having sex right now and after 5min they want to have another one... so with who , his girlfriend or wife? or take it outside like you claim?

Medical issues are not cured by advice, just like ... no number of talks can make a kleptomaniac to stop steeling, it is hormonal

Obasanjo is over 90 and i can bet he's healthier than most of the bellow 30 that i know, and this man once had intimacy with his son's wife. That is high testosterone at work. It has a mind of it own and when the urge comes for these set of people, it pushes them like demon.

With a little effort on exercising your body the testorone level would reduce and you'd stop feeling that strong urge for sex. I understand how it feels, having high testosterone, it boosts lipido and cause high drive for sex, which is normal, but for those who don't feel comfortable about wanting to lay a woman too often, running and push ups helps, and aswell increase ur sexual duration whenever you wish to nack.