NewStats: 3,264,429 , 8,183,704 topics. Date: Wednesday, 11 June 2025 at 05:07 AM v3z35

Hello house. He is finally divorcing me and remarrying another. Please read my story on my profile. I'm weak. I just want to know my rights. We have a child together. Lawyers in the house, please advise. Thank you.

You’ve documented this relationship from dating stage until divorce. It’s so weird. I hope you’re able to move on now and make better choices going forward. All you did was complain about this man and his family for the last 11 years on nairaland. I hope you’re not addicted to drama!

The whole story is sad and things are not supposed to go this way, however, i have a strong feeling that, if the husband narrate his own side of this issue the whole narrative would change, becuase no woman that coorperate with her husband, the family would experience what both of them is going through.

For your in-law to asked her to leave, its a sign of so many cases involving her (frequently reporting matters to inlaws) in other words they are tired of her reporting matters always.

I am not judging her, but its just my thought.

There is no need to read your story, in marriage divorce ground in Nigeria does not have any weight in court of law. You only have the right to your kid and apparently if you are unemployed and have no means of survival, then the child will be willed to the parent whom is capable of taking care of the child. In that case you will be the one visiting for checkup et el.
Incase of property, you will not get anything from the man simply because he's still alive and you didn't work for any of his property. I'm only saying this based on the civil side. Move on, there are many fishes in the ocean. Find the bigger fish and feed on your appetite.
Bon voyage

correctyourself:
The whole story is sad and things are not supposed to go this way, however, i have a strong feeling that, if the husband narrate his own side of this issue the whole narrative would change, becuase no woman that coorperate with her husband, the family would experience what both of them is going through.

For your in-law to asked her to leave, its a sign of so many cases involving her (frequently reporting matters to inlaws) in other words they are tired of her reporting matters always.

I am not judging her, but its just my thought.

he was the one always reporting me to his family, not me. His brother confirmed it. The brother said if there were no cracks on the wall, lizards won't through.

That u are alive,HOPE still dey..Write Seun,he fit help u secure teaching job @ Ambassadors sch,OTA..

Get engaged with work n be more closer to your God but dont go n b seeing one pastor. Take it as ur challenges. May God see you through.

I just skimmed through your entire topics.
They literally were about your marriage, your family and yourself.
The handwritings were there from the very start.
Shaking my head in deep pity.

Guys, make sure your woman is not a social media freak.

A hypothesis but one that is very interesting...

The rarier she posts online, the bigger chances she's wifely

Then let him be and find your own way, unfortunately Nigerian laws doesn't favour women, take that as your cross and do better for yourself.

Get busy, work and take care of yourself and child.. stop acting like your life revolves around him.
If he wants to divorce you, let him do that at least you get to leave with your life and peace of mind, nothing beats that.

JovialJune:
Then let him be and find your own way, unfortunately Nigerian laws doesn't favour women, take that as your cross and do better for yourself.

thanks I will

Michelle55:
Get busy, work and take care of yourself and child.. stop acting like your life revolves around him.
If he wants to divorce you, let him do that at least you get to leave with your life and peace of mind, nothing beats that.

you're right. Sure will do that. He's always posting insulting quotes about me on his WhatsApp status for the world to see and ridicule me. I've blocked him sha.

MatrixReloaded:
There is no need to read your story, in marriage divorce ground in Nigeria does not have any weight in court of law. You only have the right to your kid and apparently if you are unemployed and have no means of survival, then the child will be willed to the parent whom is capable of taking care of the child. In that case you will be the one visiting for checkup et el.
Incase of property, you will not get anything from the man simply because he's still alive and you didn't work for any of his property. I'm only saying this based on the civil side. Move on, there are many fishes in the ocean. Find the bigger fish and feed on your appetite.
Bon voyage

Are you a lawyer? Is there a law saying that the child belongs with the parent who has a job?

Maeve7:


Are you a lawyer? Is there a law saying that the child belongs with the parent who has a job?

Just to add, I don't think there's a law but if it is proven that the woman is not in a stable state (finance and living space), the odds are not in her favour. She also can't rely on child which will evidently stop after one or two months and won't be sufficient in itself. I don't think the husband would even want to take the daughter in.

@msjackson, I had to run through your old threads and it's good you document things to refresh your tree of knowledge. Having known close people in similar circumstances, I would advice you move on. There are some battles you leave to fate. Your priority should be protecting yuor daughter now because the girl child in this kind of circumstance is vulnerable to life's vices.

If you can, send her to a boarding house or your parents' place so you can focus on getting your life together. You need a job now even if it means squatting with friends until you get something going. If there's no job, start a training in nursing, catering or whatever, in 3 years max, you would be well equipped to make money on your own. You can then get your daughter back and give her a good life or perhaps get remarried...and please don't waste time with men who would only want to chop you and run (except its just the sex you need of course)

Last paragraph, don't waste your time and efforts on a protracted battle with your husband. If yoou're so inclined, report him to community courts like Ordinary President or something. Otherwise, close that chapter and move on like I profferred earlier.

All is well.

MsJackson:
you're right. Sure will do that. He's always posting insulting quotes about me on his WhatsApp status for the world to see and ridicule me. I've blocked him sha.

Good! Block off all negative energy around you and concentrate on things and people that brings you peace.
I don't only block, I erase every traces of negative and toxic people and things from my life. I don't wish anyone bad but it's best they never existed in my memory that way everyone is happy and satisfied.
Learn to remove yourself from situations that would cause you harm or disrupt your peace of mind. Your main concern should be your child and your mental health, with time everything else would fall into place.

Samakus:
Guys, make sure your woman is not a social media freak.

A hypothesis but one that is very interesting...

The rarier she posts online, the bigger chances she's wifely

Exactly 💯

Because nobody on social. Media would have the opportunity to be putting things into her head that she will use against he husband or family at home.

I can't even date a social media freak talk more of one who as a wife brings all our family life history on the internet 😐

The op was destined to be single. The marriage was always a mistake on the man's part because he refused to read the writing on his blackboard

laivwire:


Just to add, I don't think there's a law but if it is proven that the woman is not in a stable state (finance and living space), the odds are not in her favour. She also can't rely on child which will evidently stop after one or two months and won't be sufficient in itself. I don't think the husband would even want to take the daughter in.

@msjackson, I had to run through your old threads and it's good you document things to refresh your tree of knowledge. Having known close people in similar circumstances, I would advice you move on. There are some battles you leave to fate. Your priority should be protecting yuor daughter now because the girl child in this kind of circumstance is vulnerable to life's vices.

If you can, send her to a boarding house or your parents' place so you can focus on getting your life together. You need a job now even if it means squatting with friends until you get something going. If there's no job, start a training in nursing, catering or whatever, in 3 years max, you would be well equipped to make money on your own. You can then get your daughter back and give her a good life or perhaps get remarried...and please don't waste time with men who would only want to chop you and run (except its just the sex you need of course)

Last paragraph, don't waste your time and efforts on a protracted battle with your husband. If yoou're so inclined, report him to community courts like Ordinary President or something. Otherwise, close that chapter and move on like I profferred earlier. Thank you for your wise words sir. I read all you said and will do it

All is well.

laivwire:


Just to add, I don't think there's a law but if it is proven that the woman is not in a stable state (finance and living space), the odds are not in her favour. She also can't rely on child which will evidently stop after one or two months and won't be sufficient in itself. I don't think the husband would even want to take the daughter in.

@msjackson, I had to run through your old threads and it's good you document things to refresh your tree of knowledge. Having known close people in similar circumstances, I would advice you move on. There are some battles you leave to fate. Your priority should be protecting yuor daughter now because the girl child in this kind of circumstance is vulnerable to life's vices.

If you can, send her to a boarding house or your parents' place so you can focus on getting your life together. You need a job now even if it means squatting with friends until you get something going. If there's no job, start a training in nursing, catering or whatever, in 3 years max, you would be well equipped to make money on your own. You can then get your daughter back and give her a good life or perhaps get remarried...and please don't waste time with men who would only want to chop you and run (except its just the sex you need of course)

Last paragraph, don't waste your time and efforts on a protracted battle with your husband. If yoou're so inclined, report him to community courts like Ordinary President or something. Otherwise, close that chapter and move on like I profferred earlier.

All is well.

Thank you for your wise words sir. I read all you said and will do it

FourQu:


Exactly 💯

Because nobody on social. Media would have the opportunity to be putting things into her head that she will use against he husband or family at home.

I can't even date a social media freak talk more of one who as a wife brings all our family life history on the internet 😐

The op was destined to be single. The marriage was always a mistake on the man's part because he refused to read the writing on his blackboard

How cruel of you. Sounded like you knew me. So one cannot seek advice from an online forum? I normally don't respond to these kind of messages, but if you cannot proffer any positive advice, please leave me alone. Thanks.

chukwuibuipob:
That u are alive,HOPE still dey..Write Seun,he fit help u secure teaching job @ Ambassadors sch,OTA..

I can see that you sent me an email but I cannot access it because that has become dormant. You can reach me on [email protected]. Thank you.

MsJackson:

How cruel of you. Sounded like you knew me. So one cannot seek advice from an online forum? I normally don't respond to these kind of messages, but if you cannot proffer any positive advice, please leave me alone. Thanks.

You're seeking advice from an online forum full of faceless individuals most of whom are kids still single and battling adolescence?

Okay, see where your advice seeking has landed you enjoy your clarity 😀

You should have mentioned your child's age/gender. You stand a good chance of having custody of that child and he will be mandated to pay for child . He will surely be made to pay for the child's basic needs (education+feeding), you may in providing for accommodation.

I have not really read all the previous posts, but truth is that if you were a good wife and played your part to make the marriage work, yet it didn't, then don't be surprised to see his next marriage collapse again with time. I have seen such happen.

I do not think he will divorce you, but if he does, with time you will surely be able to forget him and move on. Get a job and live your life.

MsJackson:
he was the one always reporting me to his family, not me. His brother confirmed it. The brother said if there were no cracks on the wall, lizards won't through.

Ok, as you itted here, frequent reporting is one of the problem, just like i mentioned earlier.

LilMissFavvy:
You should have mentioned your child's age/gender. You stand a good chance of having custody of that child and he will be mandated to pay for child . He will surely be made to pay for the child's basic needs (education+feeding), you may in providing for accommodation.

I have not really read all the previous posts, but truth is that if you were a good wife and played your part to make the marriage work, yet it didn't, then don't be surprised to see his next marriage collapse again with time. I have seen such happen.

I do not think he will divorce you, but if he does, with time you will surely be able to forget him and move on. Get a job and live your life.

My child is a 7 year old female. Honestly he has been paying child , though not much but he has been paying.

JovialJune:
Then let him be and find your own way, unfortunately Nigerian laws doesn't favour women, take that as your cross and do better for yourself.

Who told you it doesn't favour's women too?
Has she tried?
She's about trying, and that's the reason she's seeking legal advice.
Except you are a legal practitioner.
I believe the court will mandate him to take care of his child or children.
But for marriage or any relationship, it's not by coercion, not in many parts of the world.

My advice to you is stop seeking validation here.
Most people here are still teens with zero knowledge about marriage.

There is no were marriage was promised to be peaceful and without challenges.
The did Is done....... moving on won't be easy at all trust me.

Prepare yourself for
Lonely night, tears, struggle, regrets,depression etc

No matter the method they tell you to use......you will surely experience all this.

Since there is a child between you both try avoid using her to get at him.
When it remains only you in the room, just ask God for strength to navigate this next phase of your life.

I know you must learn some lessons and seen your own mistakes.....use them to make yourself better.

MsJackson:
Hello house. He is finally divorcing me and remarrying another. Please read my story on my profile. I'm weak. I just want to know my rights. We have a child together. Lawyers in the house, please advise. Thank you.

Divorce him first before he divorce you

Samakus:
Guys, make sure your woman is not a social media freak.

A hypothesis but one that is very interesting...

The rarier she posts online, the bigger chances she's wifely

Are you serious? How does this affect

If you have a skill, this is the time to face it squarely

If it's only a child you have then you should be happy to leave that bondage of a marriage.
Your story is pathetic, I pray you find help.
Have you gotten a job yet?

Samakus:
Guys, make sure your woman is not a social media freak.

A hypothesis but one that is very interesting...

The rarier she posts online, the bigger chances she's wifely

when you marry cage yours typical African man mentality if you aren't okay with her being that way no marry am. Some people don't know how to discuss things with people hence they share online at least it's anonymous sometimes.