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Let's go deep.

Cheating is a discipline problem disguised as a desire problem. At it's core, cheating is rarely about sex, it is about impulse control and a lack of internal restraint. Discipline means doing what is right when no one's watching and many men haven't built that muscle especially if they spent a lifetime being told that their desires are natural, urgent and ungovernable.

Deep truth - cheating isn't merely a symptom of attraction, it is a sign of a weak code - a man whose personal standards collapse under pressure or temptation.

Internal voice: "I deserve this, she'll never know. It doesn't mean anything." All those are rationalisations built to avoid self- confrontation.

Ego feeds on novelty and not intimacy. Most men cheat not because they are unhappy but because novelty feeds their fragile ego in a way that consistency does not. Intimacy is vulnerable, it reveals you, it demands growth, but novelty? That offers performance without depth - a chance to feel powerful, sexy, wanted without ever being known. The man isn't seeking love, he is seeking validation without responsibility.

Pscho-analytic Truth

A lot of men use women like a mirror, the more women desire them, the more they feel like a man. Once that mirror reflects stability instead of fire they go searching for a new reflection.

1. Addiction to External Affirmation: Many men never developed an internal sense of worth. Instead they rely on external reinforcement to feel valuable and attention from women is their drug of choice. Cheating becomes a coping mechanism. It temporarily relieves them from the anxiety of feeling average, unseen or aging. The hit of attention makes them feel alive but it's short-lived so they chase it again and again. This isn't ion, it is a self worth dependency circle rooted in emotional immaturity.

2. Lack of Moral Framework (Not Religious but Internal Code): Men cheat when they don't have a personal moral structure that anchors them when temptations hits. You can't rely on how you feel when everything is good. You have to have a non-negotiable code that holds even when your ego is hungry, but many men weren't raised with one. They were raised with either

i. Entitlement. "You are the man, take what you want." or

ii. Fear of getting caught not fear of betraying their own word.

So when the opportunity presents itself, it's not even a question,their com doesn't point north, it point inward towards self interest.

3. Childhood Conditioning: Chaos feels like home. This one's deep. If a man grew up in an unstable or emotionally chaotic environment, stability becomes boring. Love that's calm, faithful and mutual can seem foreign and even numbing. So he self sabotages, not because he doesn't love you but because love when it's real makes him uncomfortable. Cheating becomes a way to inject chaos to feel something familiar. The uncertainty, the chase, the danger similar to what he grew up in. "I don't feel alive unless something is at risk."

4. Objectification Culture Plus Male Bonding Around Disrespect: Let's be real. A lot of male culture still rewards conquest and mocks devotion. Lock room talk, music, friend groups... They often frame loyalty as weakness and sexual freedom as power. So some men cheat not because they want to but because they think being loyal makes them less of a man in their circle. It's pack mentality, not personal choice. That's how hollow their manhood identity is. It's shaped by external approval, not internal truth.

5. Unhealed Wounds; Emotional Cowardice: Many men are emotionally under-developed. They don't know how to regulate needs and securities. So they act out instead of speaking up. Rather than owing up to their emotions, they go and validate themselves through betrayal then justify it later.

6. Power and Control: Cheating gives some men a sense of control. In relationships where they feel beneath the woman - she being more successful, more evolved, more mature, cheating becomes a way to level the playing field, to remind themselves that they still have power. "She might be smarter, but I can still pull this off. I am not under her thumb." It is a dominance move disguised as desire.

7. Lack of ability Culture: Most men aren't afraid of consequences. They are afraid of being caught and there is a difference - that's because society often forgives or excuses male infidelity. Other men don't hold each other able, they gas each other up. Some women internalize the blame and take them back without requiring transformation. No ability = repeated betrayal until someone, a partner, a friend or life itself forces a reckoning.


Final Breakdown

Cheating isn't complicated. It's selfishness, emotional laziness and spiritual weakness wearing the mask of lust. The man who cheats is telling you something, not just about how he feels about you but about how he sees himself and it usually goes like this, "I don't respect myself enough to honour love when I have it. So I run, ruin and repeat, hoping one day it will feel different."



It never does.

iwaeda:


This Tinubu economic dividend, Edo people are happy with. Suffering is just loading, how will people get money to pay, Nlfpmod, we will get sense by hunger and hardship. .

I'm from Edo Benin been there a while ago at 2018-2021. How is the power supply over there? Has it improved than before?

I'm considering relocating there.

wiseone28:
My only regret is i don't have regrets

Should I wish you regrets so you could have one?

Sirchiboy:

Na money I need to have

Your purpose should be bigger than money. You are at an age that makes you a figure of influence. Be a better source of influence to people around you.



Just an advice.

meobizy:
They are pastors, men of God, bishops and the like until it comes to gathering material wealth. I guess they disagree with their religion whenever it comes to getting rich on earth. The Jesus they serve didn’t care for earthly possessions. I believe they consider him a fool for it.

They don't serve Jesus, they serve themselves

I think it is sign of an ordinary mind, lack of depth in principles and beliefs plus a hallmark of potential betrayal.

kingthreat:


Please stop encouraging people to drop their full names and data on the forum. It is not proper.

I understand, and have made changes.

tobby20:

Figured 2 things
U no get work so obviously u get time

You're very funny. I do have a job, it is there in my signature and I'm very diligent with it. Have a wonderful day.

kingthreat:
Of course with one's date of birth I can decipher who he/she really is.
Western zodiac + Chinese Zodiac plus numerology

You're right but it doesn't end there. Good morning.

koladata:
person wey dey use chatgpt to check nna horoscope based on your data of birth . Tell me about myself without asking for my data of birth ... this guy na scam

You pride yourself in being a pragmatic individual, viewing yourself as an independent, realistic and level headed person in contrast to people who delve deeply into areas of abstraction that seems to be detached from everyday life. Your thinking pattern is more of "does it work" than "how true is it". In your case, accuracy takes a back seat until you are in the mood to scrutinize and criticize another person's work.

You are a very dynamic person. You rely on information outside yourself in decision making. The criterias of your decision are mostly objective and real world focused. Benefit, advantage, work, income, time and resource expenditure, efficiency, means, money, savings, specialization, enterprise, objective facts (in themselves, outside of their systematization), algorithms (as the shortest paths to the goal), technology, extraction, transportation, construction, production, business, these are words that you deeply resonate with and is your core motivation in life. Poorly handle your emotions at certain moments. In your interactions with others, you are prone to making offensive and vulgar jokes/remarks by accident. But other times, you are somewhat gentle and polite than the average person. Not overly aggressive as people may assume you to be.


Despite your business oriented approach in the external world, in the confines of your own mind, you are moderately open minded and in want of moral fulfillment. You are a closet romantic and long to find someone who resonates with you on a deeper level. You must be careful as due to your positive approach to life, you may find it difficult to ascertain who is a friend and who isn't. Despite being able to forecast future possibilities to an extent, you aren't really adept at understanding the relations among people making you prone to entertaining potential enemies.

fluteman:
30th September 1978. Male

You demand respect and attention and become irritated and even domineering when important things do not go your way. You need to feel in command of important undertakings, and resist ive roles. You seek the forefront and the limelight. You are exceptionally creative and original and possess a touch of the unusual. Your approach to problems is unique and you have the courage to wander from the beaten path. You can be impatient with your shortcomings and those of others.

You are very concerned with your status and give off the appearance of success and self-satisfaction. The need to appear well off propels you to strive for growth, success and the finer things of life.

You should watch out for selfishness, conceit and the over-concern with appearance. You must guard against overzealous behavior, anger and aggressiveness. If these qualities are not brought under control you could become excessively domineering, vindictive and even violent.

Dude101:
July 21st 1983
Male.

You are probably down to earth which makes you approachable and reachable for any kind of assistance. You are people’s person that is why you are amongst the much needed people in the core group. The best thing about you is that you do not surrender to any kind of peer pressure. Perseverance is what you demand most of the time from self and even from people around you. You have high standards for people you interact with. You also want your life to be orderly without much alternatives. You are a learner and seek knowledge from everywhere you go. Risk bearing feature is absent in your system, you would rather make a solid backup plan and act accordingly than depend on taking the risk without a safety net at hand. You are determined in whatever you do and even possess loner quality, where you can enjoy a lonely time too.


The sad thing about you is that you are very harsh on yourself. Either it is because of some old wounds which have yet not healed or any mishap that has left an unhealed scar. Such things make you feeble and you find it hard to forget. One of the biggest problems with you is that you are not ready to compromise in any situation. You are a staunch rule follower and expect others to have the same ideology which is quite impossible most times. If you find out people working or associated with you do not carry the same ideology, then you tend to lash out at them, you become impolite, stubborn and even authoritative which gives a negative impact on your image.


Plus information as I feel

You have rigid movements and are very stubborn to the extent people think of you as a robot.

Gggjhhj:


Wrong how, I could do that too

I know what astrology is but I don't subscribe to it. This thread is more of an experiment I'm making for myself. I once did one through another where I asked people to posts screenshots of their phones app drawer and I intuitively guessed their nature of psyche or their personal experiences. This thread is similar to that. My methods might not be overly explicable but to try put in words - I observe the contents of the person posting, their manner of speech, I assume their intonations and I also try alternative analysed structures and mental models I have of other people through observation.

Purpletee:
Ok

Theresa
Female
15-01-1998

You like to stay by yourself and if that privacy is not given, you get irritated easily. So, it is better to keep calm and handle things in a better manner.

You love to enjoy just as much as you love self-discovery. You have an attractive personality and possess a magnetic charm. You are smart, childlike and like to show off your skills to the people around you which makes you attractive. You enjoy your time with your near and dear ones, but you may want to be in solitude again, which brings you a feeling of peace and comfort. Because of this, it may be a bit difficult for you to be more familiar with people around you as you are always protective of your inner self which you do not like to disclose too often. However, deep down inside you want to have a handful of close relationships. You may become skeptical about most of things and not trust people. You may also tend to become suspicious of things around you which may not even be true. You may become so gloomy and a bit selfish by nature as well which will create a lot of distance between you and other people and bring issues to your relationships. You must that you’re not the center of the universe. The world does not revolve around you. Too much isolation can make you overthink and may even disconnect you from the rest of the world which may have its own troubles.

Nukilia:
When the intelligence agents decide to collect people's data on a faceless forum, they come up with multiple tricks in order to gather details of unsuspecting victims.

1. Exposing your full name and date of birth on a faceless forum exposes you to hackers who can easily retrieve your details from any of the social media platforms.

2. Men of the secret service use this method as a form of reverse psychology to extract data of innocent of this forum.

3. I will advise that smart individuals stay away from divulging personal information on this forum.

4. Thank you.

I understand your point of view but that isn't the case here. I don't scam people or try to invade their privacy.

VikingKing:
You're not psychic. You're getting info off of their zodiac signs using their D.O.B. How dumb can you nairalanders be??

You're wrong

MaziObinnaokija:
OBINNA MADUKA
08/05/1968
MALE.

If u can tell me accurately, u get 500k in your Aza .

You Sir are a purposeful and a goal-oriented person who has a lot of determination and dedication to reach your goal. You put your heart and soul into accomplishing your goals. You are always willing to take on problems and hurdles that come your way. You are very clear in your path and quite responsibly take up challenges to meet your needs. You need attention as well as affection from people around you and in return, you safeguard them and treat them with love and respect. Sometimes you may become a bit irritated and agitated when things are not going your way or as planned which has a negative impact on you.

One of the things that sets you apart from the others is that you are very creative, dynamic and intellectual which helps you in your day to day tasks and dealing with people. You are bold enough to take risks and create your own path towards success, even though you do lose your mind sometimes and become aggressive and dominating. You give great importance to success, struggle and self-dependence which is why you sometimes become restive in nature as well.

However, it would help if you also kept a watch on being too selfish, aggressive, self-concerned or overenthusiastic in your essence which may hamper your mindset in a negative way which in turn will affect your productivity. You may also inculcate a dominating attitude and become a bit violent as well which should be taken care of before the situation gets out of hand.

It is noticed that in most cases, you are at your best when left alone. When you are kept by yourself and allowed to work in your own way with freedom, you thrive. So, if you work hard and dream big, it is likely that you will be able to achieve it with your devotion and determination. However, this can also cause a lot of strain, tension and worry which may have an adverse effect on your body. Thus, it becomes a compulsion for you to follow a proper schedule, diet, exercise to keep yourself fit and healthy both mentally and physically. You can also pick up a sport of your choice which is also an excellent alternative to stay fit.

Another significant aspect you have to keep in mind is, to not be over-confident or be too proud of yourself because being firm to the ground while also being an achiever makes you more humble, which is a trait of a successful person. Instead, being grateful for the skills and abilities you have will help you evolve more as a human being.

Hisimperialmaje:
Kingsley Ogbonnaya Inyammah
30years
Male
June 4th 1994

You are someone who likes to serve humanity for a more significant cause. You have a lot of empathy towards the ones who are weak and are suffering. It gives you immense joy to help people.

You leave no stone unturned to help those in need. This quality is rather rare in people. However, there is a thin line between helping someone and invading their privacy. Not everyone may appreciate your efforts. Thus, you will have to take great care and make sure that you either guide people and leave them to act upon their situation or at times aid them and show them the way. Doing everything for them will not give them the space to learn from their mistakes. However, you will not face many challenges on this front since you have a natural inclination to create a balance with such matters. You not only try to help people by giving your valuable time, but it may often happen that you may go through a lot of pain yourself so that you can see the other person feel better; thus you may not refrain from sacrificing yourself when help is needed. However, this can only happen when you have a genuine concern for the one who is suffering.

You share a great rapport with your family and loved ones. You try to give them love, peace, and respect. These feelings are reciprocated because of your loving and understanding nature. You will make a loving partner and a wonderful parent. You will be more of a friend to your children. You will nurture them with love, protection, and harmony which is essential.

You may also have to keep into consideration that when you are young, you do not indulge in any relationship for the wrong set of objectives as it may have a negative impact on you. Do not let any emotional influence be the reason for your attachment, especially when choosing your life partner. Also, make sure you do not spoil your loved ones too much for it will only make things harder for them in the future. You must let them make mistakes and learn from them, so they learn to stand on their feet.

Another important aspect is that you do not start thinking of yourself as the savior of the world who will give his life away for the service of others. This will build a lot of pressure on you. You are not obligated to solve everyone’s’ problems.

You are musically a creative person and it may have some influence on you as an artist. Not just this, you can also be inclined towards visual arts as well. However, things may go wrong if you sacrifice your talent and skills for others, or if you are not able to identify your talent. In these cases, you may not flourish in the field of arts. However, there is always a silver lining and if you can balance your life with the service you want to present to others, you will be showered with an ample amount of opportunities. You may also be able to excel in business career if that is the direction you want to follow.

illicit:


I think age is better than date of birth

That is what I demand. This isn't a ponzi scheme, a diabolical feat or a scam, no one can scam you with only your name, age and date of birth.

illicit:
Those are sensitive details

If that is what is the trouble, then I will give the chance to provide only the date of birth and gender to put some ease.

HeatSeeker:
Tell us about yourself first

I'm Michael, 24 years of age, highly intuitive and visionary, blending mysticism, spirituality and science with humanism. I am the most interesting and impactful individual you'll ever meet in a long time.

Yes I can and I will if you're interested. Comment your name, gender and date of birth and I will provide insights about your psyche, your biggest struggles and how you can thrive on them.


Note: This thread is more of an experiment I'm making for myself. I once did one through another where I asked people to posts screenshots of their phones app drawer and I intuitively guessed the nature of psyche and their personal experiences. This thread is similar to that. My methods might not be overly explicable but to try put in words - I observe the contents of the person posting, their manner of speech, I assume their intonations and I also try alternative analysed structures and mental models I have of other people through observation.


Extra Note: Due to the skepticism of certain types of people on this thread, I'll move on to allow raw commenting without personal information to put me to the test and ultimately to put the mind at ease. The ball is in your court. Put aside negative emotions, be more open minded. It would be of much benefit. Wish you all the best.

I definitely agree with this message.

Thinking is a skill that is underdeveloped in most people, hence the poor decisions and quality of life. It hurts me to witness the level of ignorance most people have

Hello Eunoiaa, hope you are doing great and stable despite the circumstances. There are certain things I want to say which is based on our conversation the other day which I feel you need to know. Mention me when you come online, it's quite important.

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SlavaUkraini:


Then go back to the stone age.

Fools find that age very comfortable.

Have a nice life.

SlavaUkraini:
There is no where in the Bible that says oral sèx is a Sin....

In fact the bible encourages men to be satisfied with the Breasts of their wife (Breast Sucking). Proverbs 5:18-19

Breast Sucking = Orál Sex

If he is allowed to suck her breasts, he might as well go under and suck her to satisfy himself and the wife.

In your own case, first give to your husband what you are demanding from him because due to his upbringing, he may not be used to Orãl sex.

Give Pastor a Super Blówjob tonight that will scatter his head, then the man will understand what you are demanding from him.

Make sure you suck his Dick very well and send him to the third heavens and back..

Pastor will then fully appreciate the Virtuous woman that God gave him for a wife and he will return the favour by Sucking your Kpekus.

Do this and share your Testimony later.

Shalom...

I miss the days when fools had no internet and the simple were forbidden to their knowledge.

FitCorper:


Op if this is solely an original work from you, then u have warmed my heart. If yes, it feels good to know that there are others with a mindset like mine out there. At a time when I was beginning to give up on finding people like me your post gave me courage that there will be even more out there. Seun should dedicate a section for self development so we can intertwine with ourselves.

This is solely original, thanks for commending. I also appreciate people such as you. It gives me a tribe like feeling.

ItisWell22:
It’s really not easy, especially in this present day world with access to the net.

A trend is dropped, and everyone wants to latch on.
No introspection, nothing.
Just the need to look like every other person.
Which is really crazy.

Why should we be struggling so hard to be or look like some other person?

Some people find it easier to follow someone else's lead than to think independently. They shouldn't complain about the consequences.

Starz825:
You are on point...very valid. Thanks

You're welcome. the message