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Do you have any shared flat for male?

I have one Shared Apartment (Room in a flat) at Atunrase Estate, Gbagada, Lagos for male or female

Rent is 500k per annum, with 800k as total package.

They want a single person with a corporate job.

Room has personal toilet. Kitchen and sitting room is shared

Gbagada has easy access to Ikeja, Yaba, Ilupeju, Maryland, Obanikoro, Ogudu, Obalende, CMS, Ikoyi, Victoria Island, Iyana Oworo, etc

You can buzz me up for the video

Kola5281:
im in need of someone willing to share his apartment OR someone to looking for whom to collaborate and get an apartment. i`m much very open to sharing the rent annually. Due to my job location (Lagos Mainland), my preferred location would be within Ajao Estate, oke-afa, nnpc or iyana-ejigbo axis.
Thank you so much.

A FLATMATE is NEEDED in a Room in a Two (2) bedroom flat (Shared Apartment) at Peace Drive Estate, Oke Afa, Isolo, Lagos

RENT: 500k each

DETAILS:
. Other occupant is male
. Male or female accepted
. Private toilet, but not ensuite
. Band B area
. 2 flats to a prepaid meter (5k monthly is likely your bill)
. Interlocked street, no flooding
. Quiet environment (good for remote workers)

Easy access to areas like Ejigbo, Oshodi, Mushin, Idumu, Ikotun, Ikeja, Surulere, Egbe, Egbeda, FESTAC, Alimosho, etc

For the visuals, kindly WA: zero eight one eight 337 nine five one zero

MALE ROOMMATE (not flatmate) NEEDED IN A spacious ONE BEDROOM APARTMENT (MINI FLAT) at 6th Avenue, FESTAC, Lagos

RENT: 450k each

FEATURES:
2 toilets and bathrooms
2 flats on a prepaid meter
Band B area
Tarred Street
Neat person needed. Occupant is a corporate professional
No flooding

Easy access to Surulere, Amuwo, Satellite Town, LASU, Apapa, Iganmu, Costain, Iponri, Ikoyi, Obalende, Trade fair, etc

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You don't need a soothsayer to tell you your marriage is over, judging by your wife and her family' actions.

You can only act now to avoid future regrets. By "act now", I mean
1. Get your kids back under you care and watch over them or
2. Kiss them goodbye forever and get tagged a deadbeat dad by your kids and strangers on the internet who have no idea on what happened, especially when any of your kids make it in life.

The sooner you detach emotions and use logic, the better it is for you because that woman isn't coming back.

If you are too busy to look after your kids, take them to your parents if they are still alive or them in after school care program or lesson till you com back from work. Make sure to make arrangements on what they will eat either by giving someone money to feed them or get some lady/woman in your neighbourhood that can act as a non-live-in cook (cook and go) or maybe a nanny.

Your kids are your future, and not fighting for them now may end in future regrets. Consider yourself a single father and ask your relatives for guidance. If you ever leave your kids with their mother's relatives, they will soon their mom in Abuja, and that's it forever. That's a reality no father should have, especially in their old age.

What more can I say?

You're dating her, but she's ing time with you.

The best thing you can do to yourself now is to have other persons to constantly get involved with. If you don't do this, onetitis will make you continue doing all that's possible to please who you are meant to use, just as she's using you. Get multiple partners bro. Having just one person asides her isn't enough. But if you don't want to do this, cut her off.

If you fall for her charms, blame yourself for the outcome and absolve her of guilt of selfishness

OP, it seems you don't love yourself. But please don't break the hearts of your family that have invested in you and love you.

I see no reason why you would insist on friendship with a married woman who her husband has made it obvious that he doesn't want you around her. It seems you have no grasp of what a man can do out of insecurity.

Tell the woman point blank that her husband obviously doesn't want you associating with her and you can't give her your phone so as to avoid trouble.

But if you are a lover of trouble, go ahead then. I love learning from people that learnt the hard way.

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Nigerian media are the major mind engineers of the negative mindset of people about their country.

Headline could've easily read "Lagos Fire Service puts out fire at A.G Leventis building in Iddo" to highlight the true story that happened, instead The Nation newspaper used a headline that made it seem the seven story building was razed down.

Other countries will hail their firemen because of mind engineering, Nigerians will despise theirs

The dude you heard his voice in the background before she hung up the call and refused to pick up your calls afterwards is (one of) her other boyfriend(s). She didn't pick because she doesn't want you to ruin her other beautiful relationship (with the potential father to her unborn child).

He may also be responsible for the pregnancy, but she has chosen you as (one of) the fall guy(s), the chosen mumu who will take responsibility of the result of her philandering.

If you accept this one, then there's more to come.

DNA test isn't cheap, so pay no attention to anyone who isn't mentioning an affordable way for you to know the child's paternity

Lagos State Government has been ushering its residents into the new year with free music concerts featuring various successful and artists at various locations in the state.

This year, I was at Tafawa Balewa Square, Onikan which was where the biggest music stars were expected.

Here's my review of artists performance at the #GreaterLagosCountdown2025 at Tafawa Balewa Square (TBS) from the best to the least

1. BURNA BOY:
He had the best performance of the night by "single-handedly" entertaining the audience the most. Asides the fact that most people in the audience knew his lyrics word for word, his songs had no dull moment. His DJ was in sync with him too. The songs were carefully selected and gave no chance for ones mind to wander off for a second. Bringing Phyno as a surprise was well thought out! Most people present were there to see him

2. DR. ADEWALE AYUBA:
His performance looked so easy but it exhudes perfection from meticulous practice. His àlùjò was so infectious. My favourite of the songs he performed was Raise Tha Roof/Bubbling.
I didn't rate him as number because he didn't perform "alone", his sonorous live band added light to his performance.

3. NINIOLA:
The Queen of AfroHouse 😍 This lady can sing and dance o! Her performance looked humanly impossible because of how well she handled her voice control even as she sang and danced energetically at the same time. Her dancers were professionals who added more highlight to her performance. They twist, turns and stunts shows how hard they must have been practicing. Nini brought different fans on stage, and it made her performance even more interesting.

4. ADEKUNLE GOLD:
It's my first time seeing him perform and bruh didn't disappoint one bit. He's not much of dancer so he focused on what he can do which was sing. He used the spaces on the stage well! His choice of songs were well chosen as the crowd related well and were entertained. His performance songs were well edited to mimic a live band (which I believe he'd have loved to perform with).

5. SEYI VIBES:
He didn't even need to sing. Many people present were there just to see him LIVE. This bruh must be shocked at how much love he gets from his fans. They weren't his fans for no reason as his songs gave them joy, so much that they sang every song word for word. His dance steps had the crowd raving. He was smoking what looked like a vape, it can't be weed na, and that excited some boys who kept cheering him. Though the Commisioner for Toursim, Arts and Culture, Mrs Toke Benson-Awoyinka had to caution him. He disappointed most of his fans by not performing 'Oblee' the official theme song for Detty December in Lagos in 2024

6. WIZKID:
I overheard a fan who was in a choked part of the front close to the stage say he'll rather die of thirst than go get water when Baba Bolu is performing. His performance was like that of god. His aura was that of a super duper star, and his performance was the major highlight of the night for numbers of people in the audience. It was a genius for him to perform both new and old songs of his. Some people left as soon as he got off the stage.

7. KENNYBLAQ:
He was invited as a comedian, but his comedy was musical, hence why I'm adding him to this list. He exhudes perfection from practice, especially his voice which sounded as if it was autotuned. He had no flaws or mistakes as he sang his cover version of different songs to the beat from the DJ. He also interacted with of the audience to highlight his comedy.

8. OLAMIDE:
Numerous people lost their voice from screaming when he came up on stage few minutes past 12 midnight. I'm sure he felt at home with the way the crowd raved for him and sang his songs word for word, both the new and old songs he performed.

9. LOUD CHOIR:
Just like Kenny Blaq the sang their cover versions of different popular songs. Their voices and use of stage by switching positions showed how much efforts they put into their craft. It could've been nicer if their costumes were uniform, not just in colours.

10. LOJAY:
He had a good time performing, though he could've enjoyed it better if the fans were closer to the stage at the time of his performance as the barricade was far from the stage then that he had to voice out. The vibes was there from the crowd as he sang few songs that had them dancing.

11. 9ICE:
Adigigun alapomeji still have people rocking to songs he released in 2009 like it was last year because Party Rider is a jam! His recent songs like Living Things, Loke Loke ft. Sean Tizzle had the crowd on choke hold like he was having a divine moment. He seemed like someone who is lacking zest for stage performance though.


12. TIWA SAVAGE:
Mama JamJam, the Queen of AfroBeats 😇 I understood what super star aura meant when she came up on stage. She didn't even had to do anything. The fans love her too much already. Her voice was sonorous and it felt like it wasn't allowed to shine better because of the kind of jams she performed. Her dance steps too had the crowd looking like they're seeing dazzling diamonds for the first time. If she had touched anyone in the crowd during her performance, the person might have fainted from adrenaline rush. Tiwa is a super star abeg!

14. RUN TOWN:
Mr. Agu hasn't performed in Lagos in a long while and it was as if he hasn't performed anywhere in years. Fans were happy to see him, he was brought as a surprise act, but he didn't steal the show. He sang some songs which made the crowd dull, the ones that had the fans jamming were ones they danced mindlessly to as if he wasn't there. He has to hire a tutor or study stage performance again because he's underutilizing himself and I now understand greviances of some of his fans.

15. BUJU BNXN:
He under delivered in his performance unfortunately, and that's bad. He had everything but barely used any. The voice, the aura, songs, it wasn't nice. It was like someone in retirement being called to come perform and I've seen late Raskimono and Daddy Showkey perform better on stage. He need to put more effort into his stage performance. He threw money into the crowd but that wasn't why most people were there.

Unfortunately, Qing Madi performed before I came, so I can't rate her performance based on recorded videos I saw or hearsay.

Phyno was brought on by Burna Boy, I normally shouldn't talk about his performance, but he delivered 100%

Were you at the event or watched it on TV?

What do you think about their performance?

I'm thinking about porting my line and I need inputs from people that have done this before.

What has been your experience so far?

Do you experience issues normal s of your new service provider don't experience?

My main line is an indigenous Nigerian telecom and since the time it became indigenous, their network has been bad all over Nigeria. Some days, I won't have network reception, yet I live in metropolitan Lagos where all service providers should have top notch service.

I'm tired of being loyal to the brand and losing customers as a consequence

This post is in response to this thread by Rashduct4luv:
https://nairaland.isosite.org/8283132/some-cultural-practices-islam-frowns

Religion is the belief in and worship of a superhuman power or powers, especially a God, gods or deities. It could also be defined as a particular system of faith and worship or a pursuit or interest followed with great devotion.

There are over 10,000 distinct religions globally, but I will like to focus on Islam, especially from Yoruba lenses.

Islam is an Abrahamic monotheistic religion centered on the Quran and the teachings of their prophet Muhammad. Islam is one of the major religions in the world. About 1.9billion people globally claim to be Muslims, majority of whom are either in Asia-Pacific, Middle East and North Africa. It is divided majorly into Shia and Sunni beliefs with the later being the most populous.

Islam as a religion has a couple of Quran/Hadith-backed practices that may conflict a Yoruba worldview and philosophy. Millions of Muslims daily explain their actions using the Quran/Hadith as a reference:

1. JIHAD (Religious War) Ref: Surah At-Tawbah 9:5
Globally, Islam is known for conducting jihad in conquest of enforcing Islam on new lands. A notable example within where is now known as Nigeria was jihad by Uthman Dan Fodio on Hausaland where the liberal Hausas were subjugated after being conquered, and their vibrant way of life now only known through history books.
A brewing example happened less than 30 days ago at Mississauga, Canada where Muslim immigrants held a rally, calling for a jihad in a land that embraced them and granted them an opportunity for a good life. It was captured in a video on this Nairaland thread: https://nairaland.isosite.org/8270565/muslims-call-jihad-mississauga-canada

This is vastly different from Yoruba way of life, as violence to enforce one's religious belief system on another is unimaginable amongst them.

Yorubas are known to party, merry and celebrate life and its milestones in the most grand way the celebrant can afford. Yorubas love life and love being free to enjoy it as they please. Their mindset is for them not to be disturbed as they won't disturb others. Yoruba Muslims are often regarded as not being "real Muslims" as they are known for not ing or having jihad tendencies and this is because of the peace-loving nature of the Yoruba community they were raised.

Hence why violent religious extremism almost does not exist in Yorubaland and communities.

2. IMMOLATION / BEHADING / MUDERING OF CRITICS AND NON-MUSLIMS:
Globally, Islam is know for killing critics of the religion, alleged critics and non-Muslims generally. Popular Nigerian examples are Mrs. Eunice Olawale, a Christian female preacher, was tragically murdered on July 9, 2016, while evangelizing in the Kubwa area of Abuja; Deborah Yakubu, a second-year Christian student, who was accused of blasphemy against Islam and murdered by her Muslim classmates with some happily posting videos online on the role they played in her murder.
A French example is the Charlie Hebdo massacre, in which twelve of the satirical magazine’s staff were murdered by Islamist gunmen

A Yoruba adage says "Akii gbeja Orisa/Olodumare" which means "We don't fight for Orisas/Olodumare (as they can fight for themselves)" Hence, killings to defend a supernatural being is unimaginable from a Yoruba point of view or in their way of life, as doing so will mean the supernatural being is powerless if they cannot defend themselves, and deserves no worship or veneration as Yoruba people naturally turn to supernatural beings for difficult situations beyond their human ability.

3. FEAR OF DEFECTION / RENUNCIATION:
Globally, there have been uncountable instances of Muslims not being able to renounce the religion because of fear of getting murdered. Traditionally, many Islamic scholars have viewed apostasy as a serious offense, sometimes equating it with treason. Historically, this has led to severe punishments, including the death penalty, in some Islamic societies.
Popular Global Examples:
. Asia Bibi, Pakistan, 2014;
. Raif Badawi, Saudi Arabia, 2015;
. Sayed Musa, Afghanistan, 2020;

Yorubas are known to be religiously fluid. A Yoruba person can be born into an Isese family, convert to a Muslim, later convert to a Christian, and revert to Isese. This is a reflection of the Yoruba way of life of seeking spiritual solutions wherever one supposes their problems will be solved or their prayers will be answered. Fear of renouncing one's religion to avoid being persecuted or murdered is strange from a Yoruba point of view.

4. HIJAB / NIQAB:
Muslim women are globally know for mostly putting on a hijab or niqab. This practice, as learnt from history is due to the perceived promiscious nature of Arabic women which made their men devise strict measures such as hijab/niqab to avoid being attractive to other men.
An example to buttress this is the Arabic traveler ibn Battuta's conversation with a scholar in Mansa Sueiman's reign in Mali where the scholar responded to Battuta's question about allowing his wife talk to a man who isn't her husband. The scholar said  "The association of women with men is agreeable to us and a part of good manners, to which no suspicion attaches. They are not like the women of your country."

Hijab/Niqab totally contradicts the Yoruba worldview as they believe a woman is mean to make be fashionable, and flaunt her beauty too boost her self worth, exhibit her status through her attires, etc, rather than be covered up from head to toe like a masquerade.

5. CHILD MARRIAGES:
From time immemorial till date, a normal young Yoruba lady starts getting prepared for marriage from her late teens and gets married in her early twenties. The belief is that a lady in her late teens is mentally prepared to do basic marital duties such as household management and is bodily prepared for conjugal rites and child birth

Meanwhile, it is global knowledge that most Islamic societies permits child marriage. Yoruba views like 6 years old for example as children that they are and not ready for marital journey

I this guy used to rap in English when he came to Lagos. I think Illbliss was who made him start rapping in Igbo. Multiply should be his first Ibo song but it was with lots of English mixes. Ghost Mode gave him more respect

Dear Seun,

You must have observed or it must be somewhere in your subconscious that on many posts requesting opinion or narration from females, most comments comes from males (daft young boys I suspect) and they drop their unsolicited opinion or bash female-folks,, calling them Olosho and all sorts. This topic ( https://nairaland.isosite.org/8267351/married-women-whats-biggest-regret ) is the reason this post.

My suggestion is that Nairaland should have updates such as Original Posters being able to select gender or religion for example of people they want comments from. E.g The OP of the thread in the last paragraph should be able to select that they want comments from female-folks only.

This may call for a brain-storming session with your s, but Nairaland needs to be tweaked in a way that will retain customers, and not chase them away which may lead to them giving bad reviews about Nairaland on platforms like Twitter (X). Your team need to solve existing problems before your customers are fully conscious of their existence. How many comments can your s flag?

Kindly and do the needful.

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Arochukwu is a principal historic town in Igbo land. It was also one of the cities in the Southern protectorate targeted by the British terrorist government. Several historic tourist sites exist in the city. The mystic Ibini Ukpabi shrine, the slave routes and other relics of the slave trade era are frequently visited by tourists. It is also in the food belt of Abia state where most of the staple foods are produced.

The Aro-Ibibio Wars were a series of conflicts between the Aro people (subgroup of the Igbo) and the Ibibio in present-day Southeastern Nigeria in the Ibom Kingdom from 1630 to 1902. These wars led to the foundation of the Arochukwu kingdom.

Arochukwu Conquest
The proto Ibibio group originally came from Usak Edet (Isanguele), a segment of the Ejagham in present-day Southern Cameroon. The Eze Agwu clan from Abiriba, initiated Igbo migration into the region around the mid-17th century. The Ibibio clan welcomed all until some started rebelling against the ruling house. The Eze Awgu group who lead the rebellion against the ruling family aligned with several outside forces like the Priest Nnachi from the Edda group near Afikpo, was called by their king Awgu Inobia (Eze Agwu) for help. When he arrived, Nnachi and Eze Agwu allied with prince Akakpokpo Okon of the Ibibio kingdom of Ibom Kingdom. Akakpokpo Okon was the son of a marriage between an Igbo woman of the Eze Agwu clan and the King Obong Okon Ita in an attempt of a peace treaty for a war that have been fought between the Igbo subgroup and Ibibio. The Eze Agwu/Nnachi faction decided to help Akakpokpo attempt to overthrow his brother king Akpan Okon.

Aro Confederacy, and its far reaching Influence
The coup was heavily resisted which called for even more help. Through Nnachi, an Eastern Cross river group answered the call for help. They were known as the Akpa who were living at today Akwa Akpa before the arrival of the Efik people in that region. These warriors and traders, may have had European guns which were new to the territory. Being the Igbo allies, the Akpas were led by the royal Nnubi family. Osim and Akuma Nnubi led Akpa soldiers to help fight against the ruling household. Together with Igbo forces and rebels, they fought against the Ibom Kingdom forces (1690). During the final battles, Osim Nnubi was slain in Oror city state making it the capital of Arochukwu. At the end of the war, Osim and Akakpokpo were dead. In order to honor Osim's legacy, his brother Akuma was crowned the first EzeAro (king). After his death, Nnachi's descendants took the throne starting with his first son Oke Nnachi. The Arochukwu kingdom, was founded.

Notable People From Arochukwu
Nwankwo Kanu (aka Papilo), footballer
Alexx Ekubo, Actor and Model
Emeka Ihedioha , politician and businessman (from Aro Mbutu)
Etc

Dear OP,

The girl will start double dating you and the guy. She has started it already by ignoring your texts and calls.

She hasn't gotten over him and wants to use you as a necessary distraction.

The best you can do is to convince yourself that she still belongs to that guy, and you're still single and is about to be played.

Get yourself another girl. Make sure you have sex regularly from other sources so konji doesn't make you make a silly decision by thinking the girl will be yours if you do anything right. There's nothing you can do right.

Use her to time, or for other benefits.

But if you're not a game player, let her be. Don't ever think you can play this girl if you're not an experienced player. You can only play someone that likes you more. Not someone you have feelings for.

If she tells you all sorts that she's not dating the guy, it's you she has feelings for, etc, don't deceive yourself by believing such lies.

Have you ever thought about the AirBnB business model?

Are you having 3million naira and above and are looking to invest in property in Lagos?

Or perhaps, you have a friend or an acquaintance you can partner with, whom you both share the same curiosities on profitable investment in Nigeria?

I'm not here to talk about the kind of property that will tie your money down like a house or land, I'm talking about one that will give you bulk daily, weekly or monthly income.

What I'm referring to is known as apartment leasing.

WHAT IS APARTMENT LEASING?

Property investors in Lagos Mainland LGA oftentimes want to build houses and recoup their capital to pay off bank loans and pocket some profit in the shortest time possible, while just managing the building and not get involved with tenants.

So they lease out apartments in their newly built building complex to willing investors for 8yrs - 17yrs in most cases, then they'll simply manage the building complex and collect service charge of 50 - 150k annually per apartment.

The lease price depends on the size and type of the apartment, mostly room self contained and room and parlour self contained (mini flat), it also depends on the amenities of the building such as car park, tarred road, etc.


HERE ARE TYPES OF BUSINESSES YOU CAN DO WITH THE APARTMENTS YOU LEASE IN LAGOS


1. HOSTEL
As a house Agent in Lagos Mainland since September 2022, I figured there's more demand for apartments in areas on the mainland close to 3rd Mainland Bridge, or with easy access to the Island especially by corporate workers.

Also there's the demand by UNILAG students for external hostels.

What apartment lessors do here is to furnish the apartment with bunk beds and mattresses, air-conditioning system, inverter, etc (depending on their plan) for potential tenants (especially ladies) to rent.

For example, they may lease a room self contained apartment for 4.5m for 10 years, then maybe furnish the apartment with 2 bunk beds to make it 4 occupants in a room and charge each occupant 60k monthly (3 months upfront in some cases),that's 240k monthly from the apartment.
In 12months, that's 2.880 million naira.

Let's assume they spent 1 million naira furnishing the apartment, and add that to their 4.5m cost of lease to make it 5.5m they invested, they will reap all the capital in less than 2 years. The remaining 8 years is for steady profit with potentials of rent increase depending on the value of naira, and amenities provided


2. SHORTLET (FURNISHED APARTMENT)
(This is what AirBnB, the billion dollar company is all about)

On May 14th, a client of mine rented a 3 bedroom shortlet (furnished apartment) at Gbagada for 5 days and paid 100k for each day. That's a sweet 500k in the apartment lesser's . Let's assume the shortlet is occupied 15 days a month, that's 1.5million naira monthly, and 18million naira annually into the Lesser's pocket.
If the shortlet allows house parties, the price gets higher

Wow!

Another kind of shortlet (which I mostly get calls for) are the ones where the client can pay monthly. Some people are in Lagos for a project and don't want to stay in a hotel for like 6 months or maybe they are visiting Nigeria. So, let's say these shortlets are like suites for the middle class.
The average price of such shortlet is now 250k monthly (it was 150k in 2023). They are usually furnished with comfortable bed, reading table/work station, air conditioning system, rechargeable fans, inverter, generator set, kitchen utensils, gas cooker, and all other furnishings to make one feel at home.

Let's say you lease a new room self contained apartment for 10 years - 15 years for 5.5m and furnish it with 1.5m to make your investment 7m, in exactly 28months, you'll recoup all your invested capital, the remaining 8 - 13 years is for you to profit. That's at least 23 million naira profit on a 7 million naira investment


Here's an idea if you don't have all the required capital:
You may not have all the amount to invest in this revelation I'm talking about, but you may pool resources together with a business partner or partners, then have an experienced manager to manage and give you reports, and maybe have an ant (not full time if you can't afford it) to for monies moving in and out of the company's .

For example, lets say you have 2 friends with 2million and 1million, while you have 3 million naira, three of you can come to form a property investment company (e.g Musketeers Properties Ltd),
Then lease a room self con, and furnish it with 6m, then have a knowledgeable person manage and report to you guys weekly and monthly.
As dividends are paid into the company's , you guys may meet once in 3 or 6 months, or annually to share profit after expenditure in the ratio proportionate to investment.


There are other ideas I'm not going to dive into today, such as buying, renovating and selling houses, or leasing land to develop a building to be leased out, those ones are for big investors


I don't own a building to lease, but as an experienced house Agent, I know people that do

I have been very explicit and detailed, and if you wish to me for enquiries and more, here are my details:

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Have you ever thought you made the wrong choice of a partner?
Have you been asking why your girl cheated on you with her Ex?
Why your man left you after all you did for him when he had nothing?
Why girls are attracted to bad boys?
Why men will stain your white?
Why people cheat on their partner?

Here is my first premise:
I recently read a Nairaland thread which surprisingly gave me closure to questions I've been asking about where I've been going wrong in my past relationships.

Here's the thread: https://nairaland.isosite.org/8115867/how-deal

The lady in the story obviously wants the guy for sex (because of attraction/lust) and nothing serious, hence why she tells him often that she has a boyfriend.

Hold that thought... This is my second premise:

I just read a post on Joro Olumofin's instgram blog where a married lady said she is bored in her marriage of 4 years and misses the street. She mentioned qualities her husband has and the qualities are the kind you hear ladies comment "God when" on. In the end, she was asking if Joro was willing to hook her husband up with someone else as she is going back to the streets. She obviously loves her husband but is not lusting after him.

Crazy right?

Girls I've been in a relationship with in the past all had boyfriends, but unlike the Nairalander in the first story, they never disclosed it to me till I found out some way. I now realised that they wanted me for sex (because of attraction/lust) and nothing serious. Funnily, the sex becomes a romantic relationship when they start insisting I ask them out (love developed from lust). I will ask them out, then find out they have an existing relationship, then break up, rinse and repeat.

In nearly all cases, their unfortunate boyfriends were doing better in life than i was then, and was able to "treat them like a queen", yet, they still came to me, just another average guy. Choosing lust at the risk of losing love.

Now, here's my third premise:
There's a girl in my social circle that I've known for about two years. She cute and has a sweet charisma to back it up. Every guy wants her. I like her very much too but never sexually attracted to her. I've tried to condition myself to like this girl sexually, but platonic love is what it seems I'll ever have for this beautiful lady.

Here's the conclusion (a long read) which is the point of the above premises:

There are people we like with our hearts probably because they treat us well, they are kind to us, treat us like a queen or king, husband or wife material, spoils us silly with food or material things, but we are not really sexually attracted to them.
Let's call this category of people Band A
People who marry such people claim they married for money (or comfort)

And there are people who have all the red flags, treat us badly, possibly abusive, chronic cheats, non-challant and our well-being, irresponsible, not domesticated, not husband or wife material one bit, not yet there in life, we may not proudly introduce them to our parents as romantic partners, etc, yet we are sexually attracted to them.
Let's call these category of people Band Z
People who married such people claimed they married for love (or excitement)


Who Do Most People Settle With?
I figured most people tend to marry or be in a relationship with the Band A, the good guys, who posses most societally approved metrics for a good spouse, yet, they go after the Band Z to fulfil their sexual needs.

This results to cases such as:
. Ladies claiming washed for, prayed for, fed, were sexually available, gave their money to a guy who eventually left them for a slayqueen, or cheated on them with someone below their level. Then they say "Good girl no dey pay"
. Guys claiming they gave their money, time, planned their life around a girl who eventually cheated on them with some low life. Then they say "Fear women"
. Etc

Ladies and Both Category of Guys
Ladies tend to date Band Z guys when they were younger. Such guys are the happening guys when we were younger and haven't started handling responsibilities in life. They often are the exciting, fun guys who normally seat at the back of the class, brute and sometimes refined at the same time.
Band A guys most times are guys who are serious in life. Takes their studies seriously. Dont get involved in breaking the rules. Cannot stand up for themselves and will rather report to the teacher. They tend to seat in front of the class and are upright students. They have a routine life which some ladies find boring.

Ladies tend to marry Band A guys because they normally would have a stable life, with steady and stable income, have the right things to sustain a family, then start cheating with Band Z guys who excite them, and they are sexually attracted to, and possibly fall pregnant for such guys and claim the kid belong to their husband, yunno, the serious guy who is family oriented.

Guys and Both Category of Girls
Guys also tend to marry Band A ladies, especially in their younger days, for a stable family, then as they grow in life, they start going after the Band Z girls, I mean girls they find sexually attractive. This may be slay queens who isn't wife material, rude, ratchet, endowed, slim, curvy, vulnerable, etc. Someone on Twitter once said he was in a gathering with some bank heads when one CEO claims he's crazy over girls that hawks on the street.


What Causes People To Cheat On Their Partner?
There are relationships where a lady chooses to be with a Band Z guy that excites them sexually, then they eventually start cheating with a Band A guy. Such ladies claim they married for love but their husband is irresponsible, he does not take care of her and the home, he steals her money, beats her up, etc. I've seen this happen a lot in the town I grew up.
Here's a story with a surprising twist: Some days ago, I read a Reddit where a guy claims he married a single mom and adopted her kid, then she started cheating on him with her baby daddy and eventually moved in with him with her kid just after one month. He said he still has to take responsibility for the child according to the law, and he feels scammed, as the whole thing now looks planned. What a life

Also, there are relationships where guy marries a Band Z lady, mostly as a trophy wife, then he starts complaining that she is not wife material, she doesn't know how to cook or take care of the home, she is materialistic, etc. Then when she leaves him when he goes broke, or gives him another man's child to raise, he commits suicide or does something silly

Wait o...

Band-O, The Exceptions
There are exceptional cases though, whereby one is attracted to their partner with their heart and sexual organs. That means they are sexually attracted to their partner who is husband or wife material. Such people brag to their friends that their husband is good in bed, or he spoils her silly, or that they married their best friend, or that no woman can ever measure up to their wife, etc.
Let's call the category of people Band-O.

The bottom line is that everyone should try to secure a partner in the Band-O category. Human wants are insatiable, but let's try to chose someone our heart and sexual organs like.

This is only a theory by me, Lekan Adewale (Leo tha Great)

Thank you Rizzputin for the enlightenment

What do you guys think?

Funnily, I have the cons of a High Value Man and the pros of a High Quality Man.

What term do we name this? Super High Quality Value man?