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6ixpaq:

During your formative years, you must guard your time, money, and emotions like a hawk. Why? Because the relationships you enter into during this critical phase of your life are often riddled with traps designed to derail your focus and exploit your resources. Let’s get one thing straight: most of the girls who are with you right now aren’t there because they love you or see a future with you. They’re there because you’re a convenient financial plan, a steppingstone while they wait for their “ideal man” to show up.
This is what we call hypergamy—the tendency for women to gravitate toward men who are higher on the social, financial, or status ladder. Even as broke as she might be, she knows her best shot at success isn’t grinding like you—it’s marrying up. Don’t be the sucker she uses to pay her bills while she shops for someone she considers her “real spec.” Once she finds him, she’ll drop you faster than you can say “relationship.” And what are you left with? A drained bank , wasted time, and shattered focus.
Think about this: as a young man, you’re still building your foundation. You’re investing in yourself, your education, your career, and your future. Every naira or dollar you spend on a woman who isn’t adding value to your life is a subtraction from your potential growth. Do you want to be the guy who spent his 20s funding someone else’s lifestyle, only to be left behind when she decides you’re not good enough? Or do you want to be the man who spent his 20s building himself into a force to be reckoned with?
Here’s the harsh truth: your wife is likely still a toddler today. I know that sounds extreme, but it’s reality. The women who will truly complement your life, bring peace to your home, and respect your leadership are probably years away from even being on your radar. As you grow and mature, the pool of women available to you will only improve. In 2000, I my father telling me, “The pretty ones aren’t born yet.” And guess what? He was right. Today, those women are grown, waiting for me to pick a well cultured virgin among them.
The mistake many young men make is thinking that the options in front of them now are the best they’ll ever get. But life doesn’t work like that. The more you improve yourself, the better your options become. Focus on becoming a man of value—physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially. Build your empire. By the time you’re ready to settle down, you’ll have access to a caliber of woman who values you for what you’ve become, not what you can give her.
Here’s what you need to do right now:
1. Stop wasting resources on women who aren’t invested in you. If she’s not adding value to your life, she’s draining it.
2. Invest in your personal growth. Focus on your career, your health, and your mindset.
3. Learn to recognize hypergamy. If she’s with you for your wallet or what you can provide, cut her off.
4. Delay gratification. Don’t rush into relationships or marriage because you feel pressured by society or loneliness.
5. Set high standards for yourself and your future partner. Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t meet your values or vision.
this: the better you become, the better you attract. Don’t be the man who peaked in his 20s trying to please women who saw him as nothing more than a convenience. Be the man who built his kingdom brick by brick, and then chose a queen worthy of standing by his side.
Your time will come, but only if you protect it now.

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BiafranPatriot:
Hstar..Helinues say me and you na the same person.

Helinues...you lost the plot years ago. Your schizophrenia wasn't this apparent, but now you are a gapping hole of failure.

Truly get a Life...

This is disgusting

I've been emphasizing on it
That the boy is being affected by schizophrenia

And right now, dementia has set in


He's gradually losing touch with reality,
Info has it that, he sits on mountain top all day long talking to himself,

Na dat kind person you wan dey drag with?

You can see that he mistook your moniker for mine.


Helinues, you are gradually going,
You know most of us here told you here to get a job, you say no.

Now, you don dey kolo small small.

helinues:


When you are done switching monikers to revalidate yourself, let's know

Alaye, I don't know him and he doesn't know me,

Hence two different pple telling you to be productive, you are crying.

U better seek job fast before dementia catch you for that mountain wey you dey go display hallucinations

favour32:

How will you be a creditor, whereby being jobless, is your pride and chatting nonsense from one article to the other all day long as a troll?

We've all told him here to go get job

Na insult he begin insult us

BiafranPatriot:
YORUBA now know you. Can't you see they abandon your foolish posts

You dey drag with a useless person wey no get job,

Offer him job and see the way he go start avoiding you.

By the way, helinues his having schizophrenia,

And na mountain top he dey always sit down week in, week out

Ewabokian:


Employment calling

For where?
Helinues na lazy bone

Na to dey climb mountain to spot unnecessary stuff and displaying some signs of schizophrenia him sabi

He's not ready to work,
He go now open alternate and start begging for money

Helinues, go find work!

RevFrNoah:
You are sure its Jupiter you sighted, and not Iragbiji? What joblessness can not do does not exist.

Pagenaija1:


Find a job

I've personally told helinues to get a job,
He refused,

Now, he don run mad go isolate himself on top mountain dey see wetin am,

No be mad man be that?

And according to a quote:

'A mad man sees what he sees'

Helinues na mountain you still dey o,

Go find work before you enter market

Shebi you don dey see things the way man they see things too,

Don't worry, your transformation na step by step,

Lazy helinues, go get something doing before hunger make you run mad finish

No wonder somebody up there told you to reduce your garri in take

Tayorshd87:



Same here too

Oga Tee,
Wetin we go do bayi?

I'm asking for your suggestion ni o!

Same thing with mine
Always displaying emergency
Or no signal at all most of the time

If I sub, I'm always on my own most time,
Bcoz by the time the no signal starts, it can last for a month or half a month

This is great

Thank you celestial tech man

DonroxyII:
So Muah Muah Muah ... Na Only Redpilling remain make you comot ....

Unfortunately, Good, Intelligent & Wise People are Cowards Who are Afraid of The Political Dynasties & Brouhaha Of Powers As well as Power Politics Due to The Danger Embedded
Therein:


But The so Called Dump Ones have Entered all Devils Hell-holes and Survived For Money & Wealths Such That Neither Death Nor Injury scares them anymore because they have died multiple times that the sound of Death is like Sound of Biscuits ....

The Good, Intelligent & Wise Ones who haven't Journeyed Such An Adventure Could Never-Ever Compete because their Soul-Heart-Energies Would Collapse On the Sound of First Gun .......

Welcome to Africa, Permanent Residence Of Devils, The Cradle of Humanities!

Did you get banned from nairaland?

Is it the economy brouhaha that stopped you from commenting?

Where have you been?

It's been long that I've seen your post!

You always make good and valid points,

Where have you been before you surfaced on nairaland again?

All I can say is 'It's good to have you back '

stacyadams:


this 45 year old man wey dey live with him grand ma for Ogbomosho u still give under age girl belle wonderful hell anus

stacyadams:


The useless good for nothing Godforsaken hellanus wey hunger wan keee for Ogbomosho


Where he wan c money buy Christmas turkey....na lizard the clown fit buy..him go give the other yeye mannabbqgrill make he grill am for two of them to chop

Mannabbqgrill and helinues
Two very mad weyreys

tuoyoojo:


Most times, bad news make "breaking news"

People like sensational bad news to feed their bais about a topic

There are many marriages out there working and working well. If marriage was as bad as they say, then why do people get married every Saturday like u rightly pointed out....

Marriage cannot favour everyone, if it favours the person fine, if not then move on.

You would not say because fire can burn one's house , one would refuse to cook his food or because accidents happen, you would trek for lagos to kano

Wisdom

Bigkoko:
Why didn't they wait till 2027? Mad and useless people who love to cling on to power while pretending they are serving the people!

Asiwaju thought NA wants to overthrown him...Coward afraid of his own shadow. Nobody wants to overthrow you. We are all waiting for you at the polls in 2027... na ther we go feed you the renewed shege!

Rest on Lagbaja...you were a good man, and a diplomatic officer, one too cool for such hot seat!

Wow 😳
Too cool and gentle for such hot seat

Hmmmmmn

ChizzyBuna:
When you have 24 hrs plus electricity
When you have good roads
When you have stable income
When you live in a modern house
When you have good government
When you have best Health care
When you have police fast and active

That's when life becomes boring

That is why white people go cave climbing, mountain climbing, risky sports
Jumping from areoplane, sky diving, hiking.

They create unnecessary RISK to feel alive!!
Because their fancy life is to boring

Them no dey struggle for that side,
So life just dey boring
That's why they do dangerous things
Just to feel that thrill of life.

Nigeria everyday wahala is bigger than 10 snakes combined.
That adrenaline wey oyinbo dey find
Tinubu dey give us overdose 3 times daily

This life no balance

Well said

Och77:
APC : ANY PAINFUL COMBINATION

Anti people corporation

Sweeetheart:
Despite the fact that I detest fraudulent act but the way this country is have leave me to mind my business


Recently two brothers around my area that called me their street bro made some millions I think upto 4m like that despite doing yahoo for some years with nothing. They informed me and I advise them that money is a spirit, used 3m out of this money to invest, don't rent house now because they still stay with their parents, they thank me



Iast I saw them they're holding iphone 13 pro or sth cost 780k x 2. People from a poor home bought 1.6m phones. Not to long it they're broke now, one of them is begging me for 5k I told him I don't have, I dey give them normal normal before I know they're do yahoo


I hate foolish people



When I made some cash legally the first thing I bought as unemployed graduate was a car for taxi, renting a house never cross my mind, it was the money I was making from the transport I used rent my first house rent. Poor people will forever be poor not because of destiny but because of their special ignorance and foolishness

U be intellectual man, forget.

maasoap:


See pride in ignorance. How many places have you been to in Nigeria and how many researches have you done on the subject?

you even get time to dey argue

.

helinues:


Get a meaningful life devoid of wasting the current one trolling others.

Those who are doing good in life are just too busy to have time to be monitoring others

Helinues,
Please and I'm begging you,

Take the mortuary attendant job

Don't be jobless

Your joblessnesd is causing you to lose touch with reality

One naira I won't give to you again if you don't start working.

Go get a job

Wasting your life here on nairaland is not worth it

helinues:


Too much of bitterness dont make person go far in life

You guys have been trolling us for years yet it's us that you are trolling that are jobless?

Seh na too much of productivity have been making you guys to be trolling and attacking others senselessly?

Iranu abasha

Helinues, you know you are my friend

I just want to give you a friendly advice,

Please go get a job,

You are wasting away your life here on nairaland,

The last time I saw you, no be so your hands dey shake like someone with leprosy?

Of which you told me that, it could be because of curse wey you dey chop on nairaland 24/7

What did I tell you then?

I Asked you to go get something meaningful doing with your life, even if na mortuary attendant job,

Be doing it, till U will find better opportunity

And your head is full of grey hair which signifies that you are not getting younger anymore,

Helinues you are growing old,

Please 🙏 get something doing

One of our friends offer you mortuary attendant job with better pay, na you no gree o,

And have I ever complained as you dey beg me for money off nairaland? No I've never!

Take the mortuary job first and I would continue to help you financially as I always do, but if you refuse to take the job,

The financial assistance I do render to you
I will have to put an end to it.

For you can't be on nairaland 24/7 and keep begging me for money all the time without doing something purposeful and meaningful with your life

Elusive001:




That being is very wicked soul that rejoice in the destruction on the country.

You've summed it up

I did call him all sorts of evil name in his active days during Buhari tenure

Very soulless evil being with dead conscience

Boss, mannabbqgrill chop curse no be small, sotey the curse started reflecting in his life,

At the end of the day, he signed out

post=132585528:
The men have their faults and the women also have theirs.

If only you know what these women do to Naija guys over there, we don hear plenty stories.
They believe they own your life and are doing you a favor ( a wrong way to build the foundation of a long-term relationship/marriage), hence they behave and do anything to you.

But there are still some lucky ones that have it going good for them tho...

Oga Ade
Dem no ban me o

Oya cry me a river

Elusive001:



https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.channelstv.com/2024/05/17/buharis-govt-worst-in-nigerias-history-tinubu-inherited-economy-in-icu-sdp-chair/amp/


https://www.aljazeera.com/features/2023/5/29/squandered-goodwill-how-buhari-failed-nigeria-a-second-time

https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/former-minister-dalung-slams-tinubu-govt-for-blaming-buhari-regime/%3famp

Mannabbqgrill
Aka
Nlpolicewoman

Na big yeye person
Everyone on nairaland knows that

Some of us ed hands together to retire and chase him from nairaland

Hence, his comments on nairaland is once in a while

post=132585528:
The men have their faults and the women also have theirs.

If only you know what these women do to Naija guys over there, we don hear plenty stories.
They believe they own your life and are doing you a favor ( a wrong way to build the foundation of a long-term relationship/marriage), hence they behave and do anything to you.

But there are still some lucky ones that have it going good for them tho...

Why you run from nairaland?

BlueStripper:


He is saying something else entirely. Learn to read and understand please.

STOP ASSUMING EVERYONE ON THIS PLATFORM IS DUMB! WE ARE IN A WORLD WHERE INFORMATION IS JUST A CLICK AWAY. The OP might have done his own research on Algorithms, Internet crawlers and the likes.

I have had a personal experience that left me in shock. In my case, i was talking to a friend about an item. NOTE: I DIDN"T CLICK OR SEARCH ONLINE ABOUT THE MACHINE.

When i tried checking instagram later that night, I saw adverts on the same industrial machine. I had to disable many apps that had permission to my microphone.

SOMETHING IS GOING ON WITHOUT OUR KNOWLEDGE.

We live in a world where DATA is money. Facebook had betrayed its s in the past and guess what? they own instagram and threads.

I repeat, SOMETHING IS GOING ON WITHOUT OUR KNOWLEDGE.

How many of us are conscious of the stock applications on our mobile phone and the rights in which they operate and function?

How many of us have checked our system applications and done a deep research on the functions of each system app?

Update

To those quoting my mention and talking thrash, I will simply say that you are not different from an average Nigerian.

In other places, this would trigger the need for research to ascertain if this is true and the faces behind it. But in this part of the world where people pay money to learn about "London Bridge" and the "Queen of England" instead of "Tudun Tsira - Jebba bridge" or "Queen Amina of Zaria", what should i expect?

What should I expect from a people who do not research but believe that everything from the WEST is BEST.

What should i expect from a people with bogus certificates but cannot challenge what they are being taught to ascertain factuality.

Don't mind those criticizing you please

This is Nigeria