Chram:
I write with Pains in my heart.
I wish to ask God why some certain events occur in life.
I have lots of questions to ask, but nobody to give me answers.
I describe as Selfish, inconsiderate and egoistical the decision of my mum to remarry.
So, I lost my lovely and caring dad six years ago. We had lived in Port Harcourt prior to his death. When we were traveling to the village, we packed all the little properties we had cos we were not going to return back to PH again since my mum would not be able to cater for myself and little siblings.
After the burial and funeral ceremony, we all stayed in the village. I mean a typical village where there's no good road, no electricity, no mobile network. I stayed for a few months, then left them to go squat with my friends in port Harcourt so I could hustle with my muscles and return back to sch at least because it had always been my dad's desire for all of us to go to sch, so I beat my chest and vowed that I would go to sch and graduate. Thank God, I'm done with sch now.
My current challenge now is my mum is in her mid forties and wants to remarry to a man in the village. She hasn't told me yet. But my paternal aunt called to inform me. I'm really worried because if she gets remarried, she will abandon my younger siblings who are there with her because she won't be allowed to take my siblings to her new husband's house as it is an abomination based on the customs and traditions of our place. If my siblings must live with her in that place, then they will have to start bearing the new husband's name as his children. Why ?
Also, as a male child, I'm not allowed to go visit here and eat or sleep over in her new house. If I do this, I might die. Why is this?
Based on reports, my grandfather(mum's dad) is the one mounting pressure on my mum to get married. I'm really worried about the whole situation because the ties between my mum and my siblings are about to be severed. Since my dad died, my mum has been living in her father's house instead of my dad's place. Though both places aren't far from each other. Its trekkable. I feel really hurt and betrayed, I can't even imagine my mum in the arms of another man. If I was stable in monetary and economic , I would have taken her out of that dungeon to come live with me, and also bring siblings along. I'm really pained as I type. Tears.. my dad died at age 47.
I wish u guys can beg my mum not to remarry please. What's the difference between me and someone from a Broken background?
Life is not fair to me and my siblings. Not fair at all. I know how I'm feeling right now.
Let me make it clear at this point that if her plans of remarrying goes through, I will dis-mother her. I'll cut all ties and destroy every bond that ever existed between herself and us the children.
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no Toto is meant for one man.its either people used it before u came or people will use it when you leave.
SocialJustice:
Ndume should keep quiet and Tinubu needs to make sure this guy is locked out of all political offices from 2027. Jonathan that was a category A mumu, does Tinubu look that way to him.
bro ndume said the truth.u may not like him but tell me where he lied.no sane Nigeria is happy with tinubu.how does the defection of a governor mean the whole state has moved with the governor.governor Dey feed me?the only thing u will tell me is that Jonathan does not grab it snatch it and run away with it.If a free and fair election,portable will defeat tinubu before 1pm
GanagiBitrus:
There is an existing road linking Lagos with Calabar. Makes more sense to maintain it than to embark on constructing a new road that will gulp billions of $.
i never knew tinubu was this hopeless.una no no how shocked I Dey.i was believing that due to age he should have reduced or stopped this his criminal behavior.I won’t stop being shocked until 2031
Looking at the way adefarasin acted and what ibiyeomi has been talking with his mouth lately.I feel our politicians have more conscience and humanity in them more than our pastors.i don’t want to add the adeboye and eneche.Our religious leaders have really fallen short.
malali: In a country ravaged by unsolved gun violence, brazen extortion, and untraceable homicides, the last thing Nigeria needs is a spiritual leader mocking the rule of law.
Pastor Paul Adefarasin, a man whose words fill cathedrals and whose influence stretches far beyond the pulpit, was recently caught on camera allegedly brandishing a firearm in broad daylight traffic. A digital witness captured him clearly gripping what numerous firearm experts have reviewed to be most likely a Beretta 92X RDO Compact - a military-grade pistol.
Rather than own up to it or clarify with dignity, the Pastor responded by gaslighting 250 million Nigerians - insisting the object in his hand was not a gun.
Yes, you read that correctly! A gun… in traffic… pointed in the direction of civilians. In a nation where even possession of a toy gun in public is legally prohibited without just cause, this is an insult not just to our laws, but to our collective intelligence.
This is not the Wild Wild West.
Nigeria is not some lawless frontier where influence gives immunity. Lagos is a city of over 20 million lives, crammed into chaotic roads and high tensions. The safety of its citizens must be non-negotiable, and the Governor, Babajide Sanwo-Olu, who swore to protect this state, must lead from the front.
He must demand that Pastor Adefarasin submit himself to police authorities and present the item he was caught wielding. If it's truly a toy, then let the public see it. If it's not - let the law take its course.
The Laws Are Clear:
• You cannot brandish a real or replica firearm in public.
• You cannot threaten or intimidate civilians - especially media creators - for simply filming in public.
• You cannot dismiss public concern with sarcasm and gaslighting.
What Happens Next Sets Precedent:
If nothing is done, then every frustrated elite will soon begin brandishing weapons - real or fake - in traffic, in malls, at airports, and on our streets.
Silence now means anarchy tomorrow.
It is time to sanitize Nigeria's relationship with firearms - not deepen its rot. Pastor or not, no one is above the law.
he looks like a bully and someone who takes here drugs.truth be told.guys watch that video again and watch d way he acted.How do we get rid of all the pastors in Nigeria.they are actually worse than our politicians.
If you kpai yourself because of one useless politician na oyo you Dey, last week Davido Dad and his uncle Governor of osun state went to pay homage to Tinubu, Davido out of shame remains in the villa residence of Tinubu with Tinubu wife Remi,he even took pictures and posted it, now imagine the same Davido calling Tinubu unprintable names during osun governorship elections now having dinner with the same Tinubu, no be juju be that?, don’t kpai yourself for politicians oo it’s not worth it
fergie001: Gov Alia, during an appearance on Channels Television on Friday night, had alleged that the SGF and his associates had not spoken out or taken action on the wave of killings and violence, particularly in the Sankera region.
in a sane country Alia would have been invited by authorities to say the names since he knows.i mean why do u make our job difficult when u can make it easy by naming them.Even the benue people that are losing their loved ones would have marched to govt house and force him to name the people killing their loved ones.But in Nigeria it won’t happen.a cursed nation.Alia is a useless man.another reinforcement that religious people are the worst in the society.
We also have similar practices in different cultures across Nigeria; it's just that Christianity has eroded their significance over time.
Nkugho is practiced by the Efik people and a similar tradition sometimes called "Mbopo" exists among the Ibibio.
Generally, these rites involve the seclusion, feeding and training of young women in preparation for marriage.
In Igbo culture, there is a similar practice called "Iru Mgbede" or "Mgbede" it's a period during which a girl is prepared, beautified and educated about marriage.
There's also "Erhe r' ivie" practiced by the Urhobo people, where a girl is groomed and taught everything she needs to know about family life.
The North has "Kulle" or "Kunne"
u have a vast knowledge brother.u should replace rufai oseni in arise tv.lol.bro girls from those African countries Dey another level.if their hand touch u u go confuse.
take care of man.My zim girl told me her parents started teaching her how to take care of a man when she turned 14.our own parents tell their kids to run away from men.world’s apart.
Don't generalise because of few bad eggs.
We still have very good girls everywhere in the country. It will shock you to know the high number of virgin girls in our higher institutions.
We have a lot of many decent girls who are not shaking their bum bum on social media. I speak from an informed position.
of course.but na ratio we Dey check.if 100 zim girls fall out do something.na 2 of our girls go fit do am.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEPOkb4xyNU?si=vqocIjeW4GjOsSld
Excerpts: "My daughter is married to a Nigerian, this one now again too is getting married to a Nigerian. Our guys around, I don't know.
We need to balance this scale, because at this rate we are going to have a brain drain from Kenya!"—William Ruto, President of Kenya
no normal naija guy that has seen light will want to marry a naija woman .Our women are the worst in the world.
benuejosh:
Damn! That's some millions of naira setback.
set back is part of life.as long as it’s money,we move.The one wey be yawa na when health fail or life lost.If say financial set back Dey kill people I for no Dey nairaland today.
Futuristica:
My wife has been acting weird for some months now, like she doesn't apologize if she is wrong, doesnt try to seek avenues for us to reconcile if we have quarrels. Instead, I am the one that always put the foot forward. If I point out something, she shows no remorse. She often says things like 'this life na once' .
Just a background.
I stumbled on this message sent by her workplace close girl friend. This tiktok message talks about falling in love with a married man because the man makes her feel loved etc etc.
But the caption below by the friend says, we will miss you so much.
My mind has been wondering what it means.
I woke her from sleep to confront her to explain what the message means (it's a message sent this January) ..she looked scared or maybe anxious as I asked her if she had cheated on me with anyone recently.. offcourse ,'no' is the normal answer.
I showed her the message for her to explain what it was about . She said she can't what it was about and that she doesn't know. When I pressed further, she started gaslighting that if I feel she cheated, I should give her a divorce .
Dear house, what are you views on this matter? I am more concerned about what this message might mean.
Please be fair in your judgement. Thank you.
r u not cheating?why are u bothered if she is cheating.na u and her gather come this life?all those Thgs no Dey bother me.U no be guy man.e no get any Toto when only one man Dey fork.once u come to with this u don overcome.
bazoodo:
wonder what type of parent you are. You should discipline your children not hope they turn out right
comprehension issues Dey worry u.if not u go understand wetin I Dey write.i live a moral life and ordinarily shouldn’t be scared of those social vices but life hard.i don’t drink or smoke.none of my brothers do too.but we still need prayers.why u call me bad parent na wetin I never understand
highchief1: 8:50pm
