NewStats: 3,263,992 , 8,182,189 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 08:16 AM 4h3wl

Hmmm

If you know you are not done with formication, you have no business with marriage

It'll take the grace of God to restore your marriage. But your wife was too fast to involved the entire family. She may regret it later. This something she should have dealt with you privately. Even if she forgives you, her family may not. Marry wise women.

Am more concerned why the lady will record everything... And why then did she send it to your wife.

This your story get as e be.

A lady that havent met your wife before just decided to send bad evidence to her just like that.

Except if you have promised the other lady marriage, I see no reason why she will leak u guys secret.

Lol

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

if sounds like you are sorry you got caught

Your wife is coming all you had to do was clear your tracks

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Just keep begging and apologising still she forgives you

They said that it's only women that cheat in marriages. When a man cheats everyone keeps quiet.

You're only sorry because u were caught.
If you were not caught, you'd have continued.

You're not truly remorseful. You would have definitely continued in your sexcapade if you weren't caught so your apologies make no meaning.

Its nt about forgiveness, bt will she ever trust u again?

Be a man & ignore her..


She will come back and then you
can calm her down..


After all, last last, man can't be eating
only one soup forever❗️❗️😎😎😎



But I also detect some mumuness in
you, a married man, for recording such amorous dalliances. For what purpose
may I ask..



As for your wife, dem don talk say make
dem leave our phones alone, because
wetin dem they find, dem go see am for
the phone and na dem go dey cry...

men are polygamous, she will get over it.

Is it just me....cos once I see stories with random internet pics at attached...I just feel it's a bunch of made up stories

It's crazy

Dexy4yah:
I believe after your wife left the hotel....that same day you still knack that girl.



I know Una type

You be mumu, leave your job beacause of your wife

schoolboymatt:
men are polygamous, she will get over it.

Or she will prove women can also fvck multiple dîcks by cheating....and add paternity fraud as jàrà....


This is 2024 ooooo....everybody is polygamous now

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand what the problem is? Did you send her to go through your phone? My rule is anytime you go through my phone, whatever you see take it like that. Ask me nothing cos I owe you nothing.

If she wants to go let her go. Don't beg her. Na cheat you cheat you no kill person.

Don't mind the silly fellow. What was the wife looking for -a reason to remain in the marriage or a reason to leave?
This one women full everywhere.

Take this advice and take it well...Don't act...don't beg...act like you didn't see the messages she left you. Never bring it up first...

Take it from me...you done messed up, take it up the chin and act like it's no biggie...she will come around much sooner than if you give in to her drama and go begging.

If anybody calls you, tell em you respect them but what's done is done...you will rather they give yall space to deal with it as a couple.

Your wife will get the message...she will wonder why you not acting remorseful? She will wnder if she was so bad and turn thr blame on herself.

It's cold...I know...but that's gonna get the job done sooner than if you go explaining, begging or doing all the things conventional wisdom advises.

When all is said and done...let ur subsequent strayings be just about sex...chemistry and lust.
No good reason you should be chatting and texting a side piece you just met when you are newly married.
Boundaries ain't just physical...should be psychological too

advanceDNA:


Or she will prove women can also fvck multiple dîcks by cheating....and add paternity fraud as jàrà....


This is 2024 ooooo....everybody is polygamous now

any woman that cheats on her husband should not be given a second chance... send her packing. 😂

Apologize and be thoroughly sorry,if she gree nwanne move on.

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Shut the fuvk up and grow up man. You are an African man and stop this stupid western cheating shittt…

You are a man and free to sample any kepkus you want. Don’t just get caught and do it with caution, use protection and don’t neglect your family.

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand what the problem is? Did you send her to go through your phone? My rule is anytime you go through my phone, whatever you see take it like that. Ask me nothing cos I owe you nothing.

If she wants to go let her go. Don't beg her. Na cheat you cheat you no kill person.

Do you realize this is about someone Marriage And are you married If You are,,,, Legally If Yes, can You define Marriage Answer to this questions should help you comment responsibly on issues of marriage next time.

Enemyofpeace:
The wages of seen is dead by stoning

Hahaha
Make we stone am to death

PerfectStranger:
Crying like you're not the bread winner of the house. Instead of getting your shìt together. Are you not a man?

All these Genz kids jumping into marriage. Can't even cheat successfully

So being the breadwinner of a home gives a person a at cheating? Then a dual-income home would be a playing field for an open relationship abi?


I did not when this update dropped, but it's cool.

adecz:



Be a man & ignore her..


She will come back and then you
can calm her down..


After all, last last, man can't be eating
only one soup forever❗️❗️😎😎😎

SO also women too.

But I also detect some mumuness in
you, a married man, for recording such amorous dalliances. For what purpose
may I ask..

Memories of how he betrayed his wife.

As for your wife, dem don talk say make
dem leave our phones alone, because
wetin dem they find, dem go see am for
the phone and na dem go dey cry...

Or he can simply respect his marriage vows, or maybe, going back in time, be honest, and tell his then intended he wanted to be a polygamist, so if she no greee, they would have gone their separate ways , and tears would have been avoided.

advanceDNA:
Is it just me....cos once I see stories with random internet pics at attached...I just feel it's a bunch of made up stories

Mods add those pictures when they are moving to front page

Cheating in marriage is completely unacceptable. U must know and accept this from the day u propose.

Sow all ur wild oats b4 then if u must and close that chapter for good if u are ready and serious about marriage.

u fumbled and must make amends, start by calling ur family, inlaws etc and apologise for ur misbehaviour let them speak to ur wife on ur behalf then try to speak with her.

Boredom is not a reason to cheat.

Bro, you should not be ashamed. Just man up, apologise briefly to your wife. Don't be too emotional about it. She will constantly drag you into her emotional frame because of the issue.. resist the urge to explain. Whoever she has reported you to, if they call you, just apologise briefly and move on. Don't explain too much for anybody. Remain firm as a man you be. She will come around.


Please don't make mistake of trying to please her too much. Just make sure you pay all the bills as you dey pay am. Don't panic because if you panic, you will press self destruction button.


Women don't care about morality, they only care about if you are Strong Or Weak. If you are Strong, she will forgive you and move on. But If you are weak, she will severally punish you for it till death do una part. Stand strong, sir

do you have to.. she called everyone then so be it. if she could call everyone first before talking to you about it, you will need everyone she talks to in other to get her settled back.. i would just let it be and man up as i have while cheating.. it wasn't a mistake so why worry when already you know you cant properly cover up. i didn't read the story but i read the first and fourth comments

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

U are a cheat, man or woman, cheating is wrong, pray and beg. What ever she decides is okay by us lol. Don't expect a woman to forgive u when u cheat, for men please don't ever forgive. Only God can say now. Y do people even cheat self, man or woman? If u committed stay committed. Cheating in a relationship I can understand but in marraige? In relationship I understand it may be a mistake but not in marraige. Imagine if that woman is a good woman, u just ruined something.