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Hi everyone,

I have a serious problem, and it's really getting on my nerves.

My husband and I got married 2 months ago . We have been dating for 5 years and we were both virgins. We both value virginity and we decided not to have sex before marriage.

On our first night together, he couldn't penetrate me at all. I was terrified and I think that's why I wasn't comfortable. We tried the next day, and it hurt like hell. Only the tip of the head could get inside but it was really painful.

I started to get frustrated with time and nervous too, and so we didn't try to have sex for weeks. He didn't want to hurt me and I was too scared to face another failure.

The pain and fear made me run away from sex and find excuses. My husband suggested I should try stretching the entrance of the vagina with my fingers... When I did, the pain was unbearable, but it went away with time and now I can do that without pain at all.

However, this month, I decided to overcome my fear... desire came back and I felt like having sex again. We tried again and now the head goes in completely. There still is some pain but I'm kind of used to it now. I even got orgasms on the several times we tried. ( eventhough only the head managed to get inside ).

My questions are, is it normal that his penis doesn't penetrate me fully? Is it like the entrance of my vagina needs some stretching ( and does this stretching occur after we try so many times? )

I'm desperate and don't know with whom I could share this problem.

I'm waiting for your answers

Thank you,

Hmmmm meet a doctor

I'm still not entitled to answer such question so lemmie just read comments..

lolx, which kind matter be this one...

o boy

it might be because its u guys first time of doing such... with time it will get better.

I reali don't understand tho...iss it that your man's dick ain't BIG enof??...is it too small??

lardeipo:
it might be because its u guys first time of doing such... with time it will get better.

this is an experience answer
i think i have to concur

o.p, jux keep trying it with ur husband. ur kitty kat will eventually get used to his joystick.

Only the head goes in? Maybe you don't have a vj. #justSaying

Why not discuss this with a doctor and here what s/he has to say.

Joystick abi propeller?


You lock gate come dey ask us when e no enter?

Nah we seal am?

apply lubricant (olive oil or the likes) to ur virginal before penetration.

Virgin knows all already...

chichi nwa...go and buy a fresh cucumber. I know it will help
or beter e-mail me, I can help expand it
atlast any bodi dat believed ur a virgin is a slowpoke

thanks for the understanding

What a tale.

@OP: Have you both tried lubrication? I don't get how you can have 0rgasm$ without full penetration? Are you sure what you felt were indeed 0rgasm$??

Just try n see a doctor first. It might not be ur hubby's fault. It could be from u IMO

Full penetration will happen when you both do it reqularly.

Pidggin:
Why not discuss this with a doctor and here what s/he has to say.

Doctor... wetin u wan tell doctor?

Dear, d truth is that it is usually painful but you won't because of that decide not to make love with ur hubby. One of the things that will help you is to fight anxiety. Always put ur mind in d act and not on d pains, ur hubby too has to be gentle, am assuring you that the moment ur relaxed during sex, ur hubby will have full penetration n d pains will b a thing of the past. No medical assistance for now, trust me. *U guys should have regular sex, it's key*

Jimdonnet:
Am sure its ur anus ur talking about*virgins don't exist again

philfrey08:

Doctor... wetin u wan tell doctor?

Her doctor will tell her the best lubricants to use and this will help, s/he may also want to do some medical assessment on her just to check a few things, he/she may further give her some palliatives to stop the pain.

Where are the Versaline crew when u need them......
u guy should try lubricants ....

Just to know where your problem is coming from... Abeg na d husband dey your dp so

I wish I knew but I actually dont wish to be privy to such information.


measure your thing and measure his own thing, enter the stats somewhere and see if you can figure it out.

EfemenaXY:
What a tale.

@OP: Have you both tried lubrication? I don't get how you can have 0rgasm$ without full penetration? Are you sure what you felt were indeed 0rgasm$??

Very possible.
There is penetration, no matter how shallow and the clitoris is probably being rubbed in the process.

@ o.p..not really experienced in d matter of disvirgining, but one tin I know is ; The longer u leave it,the more difficult it'll be.
Also, plenty of lubrication f a smoother access

Chaii. ...see comments. Who needs comedy night when I have Nairaland?

Please I dont know how I can reach u so dat I wld tel u my own experience and how I handled it. But believe me d pain wld soon leave on its own but wit constant love making. Vaseline is important. It works. Till we talk

amiskurie:
Virgin knows all already...

Obviously, You're The Slowpoke! Well, Guess You Guys Are Still Rehearsing. When Una Ready, Una Go Act Well.