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Reckonsoft:
Go to a bible believing church for deliverance

What deliverance?
Any of una tin na religion religion. Instead of advising I go see a therapist, you re here telling me about a bible believing church as if any of these real and fake churches don't use same bible to deceive gullible people

highchief1:
ok what should I do?move on?like she never existed?

Forgive yourself, I don't know what happened, but i know one thing, perhaps it is not just grief you hold on to but guilt. You have to forgive yourself, you are human and you deserve to live your life, you have to, you owe her that.
. Did I say owe her? Yes, I tell people when people die you have a silent responsibility towards them, that responsibility is to live your life as best as you can. Their memories should leave you grateful not broken.

See you only get one life, whether it is 10,20,30 or Just 1 for their are children born who don't get to see past the first hour of their birth. But two things are certain.

We live and we die.
Don't live in grief and regret.
Life and Death are part of one big circle, A time for everything, you have grieved far too much if what you say is true, forgive yourself and move on and make her proud. Also even though you may not be religious.

Energy attracts energy. Physical or Spiritual. not all energy are good and even worse energy can be manipulated.
Please be careful and take care in all.

Hmmm u funny

bookson:
You need deliverance for sure. Only genuine encounter with Jesus can save you from this fear of death. It is a demonic and satanic oppression you are suffering from.

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VaginaAcademic:
You on some final destination shit. Stop being pessimistic besides if you die you won't even know you're dead so stop overthinking and get a life.

This is not helpful 😂😂

Curse don start!

Exgee:
Hi guys,

I don't know what's wrong with me. Growing up, my best moment was whenever I was traveling(By road). I used to enjoy this.

But since I clocked 25, I no longer find it pleasurable traveling, I'm always scared of traveling. I fear that I may be involved in an accident that could maim or kill me. I have not been able to share this with anyone cos I don't know how to. Some years ago, my friend and I had a terrible ghastly accident that almost costed us our dear lives. We were returning back from the village in the early(6am) hours of the morning and before we would exit the village, the brakes of our vehicle(Lexus 350) failed and the speed of the car tripled. I saw death, I came in direct with death, but God saved me. My friend who was driving was quickly rushed to the hospital where he spent a week but I was lucky to not be much affected. I only had a cut on my lips and head. The vehicle somersaulted countless times. Farmers who were on their way to the farm that morning and heard the sound of the car somersaulting refused coming to help us. They said they didn't want to see Dead bodies at that early time of the morning, they didn't know we survived.

Sometimes again, I had another accident. I was about running mad when I eventually managed to pull out of the car, I had use my head to hit everywhere. These two accidents involving two different cars were all sold as scraps cos the damage were irreparable. And if they were to be fixed, the money would be more than imagine.

Again, my father died from a motorbike (Vespa) accident many years ago while I was just 7years. He didn't die on the spot, he even brought himself back home that night unaided. No external injuries but he had internal bleeding which wasn't detected in time, at 4am, mum took him to the hospital as pains in his chest became intense and at 7am, he gave up the ghost. The psychological impact of all these still affect me, I guess.

How do I overcome this please?
Its so bad that whenever a loved one is traveling, I will be saying in my mind that the person might die on the road and that we may never see again. God pls help me!

God has saved me countless times and if I begin to write here, we may not go to bed tonight.
To God alone be all the Glory!

Pray and rebuke those lying demons away. Fear is not of God.

WriterX:


Forgive yourself, I don't know what happened, but i know one thing, perhaps it is not just grief you hold on to but guilt. You have to forgive yourself, you are human and you deserve to live your life, you have to, you owe her that.
. Did I say owe her? Yes, I tell people when people die you have a silent responsibility towards them, that responsibility is to live your life as best as you can. Their memories should leave you grateful not broken.

See you only get one life, whether it is 10,20,30 or Just 1 for their are children born who don't get to see past the first hour of their birth. But two things are certain.

We live and we die.
Don't live in grief and regret.
Life and Death are part of one big circle, A time for everything, you have grieved far too much if what you say is true, forgive yourself and move on and make her proud. Also even though you may not be religious.

Energy attracts energy. Physical or Spiritual. not all energy are good and even worse energy can be manipulated.
Please be careful and take care in all.

detailed talk.e no easy thanks tho most of things u said are what I know but e no just easy.we were close to a fault.its been 5yrs I’m hoping time will help me.its not as bad as it used to be a few years ago.i went into a full blown depression.since that incident I don’t like getting to close to anyone.ill be telling myself that if this person dies now it’s another wahala for me.i deliberately reject closeness.

I don't usually fear death in accident. Infact i dont fear death at all. What am only asking for is that when such circumstances happen, let me die completely. I don't want to lose an arm or leg, or one organ is not functioning well.

This is my take.

highchief1:
detailed talk.e no easy thanks tho most of things u said are what I know but e no just easy.we were close to a fault.its been 5yrs I’m hoping time will help me.its not as bad as it used to be a few years ago.i went into a full blown depression.since that incident I don’t like getting to close to anyone.ill be telling myself that if this person dies now it’s another wahala for me.i deliberately reject closeness.

I learnt one of the greatest lessons in my life about time when I lost an opportunity to have someone close to me when I needed someone. This person writing this has been suicidal and attempted suicide three times. Over depression, lost and pains. I know what it means to loose someone, to grieve and to be scared but the very moment you let all of that blind you from moving forward. Life stops.

Time does not heal people on its own. My friend. Whether you want to believe it or not. It is only a drug. Only when you open your self to it that it does. In other words, the power to heal is with and within you. Time is a key among many keys, you are both the door and a master key.

Let go of that pain, get a quiet place, cry your eyes out and grieve properly like people do. Express your feelings in words or voice. Then wipe your face and move on.

Guy, I have seen many people hurt themselves over grief, I almost became my own victim. Trust me, let that grief go. It has served its purpose and now it is now a parasite! Let it go!!!

WriterX:



I learnt one of the greatest lessons in my life about time when I lost an opportunity to have someone close to me when I needed someone. This person writing this has been suicidal and attempted suicide three times. Over depression, lost and pains. I know what it means to loose someone, to grieve and to be scared but the very moment you let all of that blind you from moving forward. Life stops.

Time does not heal people on its own. My friend. Whether you want to believe it or not. It is only a drug. Only when you open your self to it that it does. In other words, the power to heal is with and within you. Time is a key among many keys, you are both the door and a master key.

Let go of that pain, get a quiet place, cry your eyes out and grieve properly like people do. Express your feelings in words or voice. Then wipe your face and move on.

Guy, I have seen many people hurt themselves over grief, I almost became my own victim. Trust me, let that grief go. It has served its purpose and now it is now a parasite! Let it go!!!

I don’t cry when I lose someone.i no no why.but I noticed that I wake up some morning with soaked pillow.i have cried in my sleep.I understand u 100%.it’s like the saying”nobody is coming to save u so save yourself “

Jesus Christ is the solution because you are possessed by the spirit of fear of death.
"for as Children are partakers of flesh and blood,so did Jesus so that through death,He was able to destroy he that had the power of death that iste devil,and deliver all who through fear of death were their lifetime subject to bondage"-(Heb.2:14-15).

You wan make hin mindset kill over 350 pipu

You're a wicked Man

duduade:
Have you tried travelling by air

Try it ...

Come back and give is

highchief1:
I don’t cry when I lose someone.i no no why.but I noticed that I wake up some morning with soaked pillow.i have cried in my sleep.I understand u 100%.it’s like the saying”nobody is coming to save u so save yourself “

Well boss, I believe you are good to go. I have said all I can. Take time to really grieve and let that grieve let go off you. Though i doubt you may be into religion and spiritualism. It doesn't matter but know that we were not made to be alone, there is someone up there I believe who looks after you, me and everyone . Sometimes having people to share your feelings with is an antidote. This was how God healed me of what was supposed to be my end.

Tonight, my prayers are with you. Goodluck chap!

I have traveling issues as well but mine is not that complicated, my own issue is how to begin with the journey..

If I wan go my side my pipu go don dy stress, dy call me for like 4 days and funnily the 4 days go still

Use the other medium to travel. All you need na to . simple! And you start teleporting anywhere

WriterX:


Well boss, I believe you are good to go. I have said all I can. Take time to really grieve and let that grieve let go off you. Though i doubt you may be into religion and spiritualism. It doesn't matter but know that we were not made to be alone, there is someone up there I believe who looks after you, me and everyone . Sometimes having people to share your feelings with is an antidote. This was how God healed me of what was supposed to be my end.

Tonight, my prayers are with you. Goodluck chap!

God bless u bro.i really really appreciate.

sacajawea:

What?? ??

Wasky101:

What's with the basketball?

Op you need psychotherapy but what's more important is do not listen to any religious spiritualist who says they have solution to your anxiety.
If you do , that would be the beginning of the end

franugo:


Is the basketball line an adage?

It's just a little word play.
In basketball traveling is a term to describe an offense in which you take more than 2 steps without dribbling.
The joke lies in the fact that since he's afraid of traveling, he shouldn't play basketball so as not to find himself traveling.
[of course most jokes ceases to be jokes if they have to be explained]

thesicilian:




It's just a little word play.
In basketball traveling is a term to describe an offense in which you take more than 2 steps without dribbling.
The joke lies in the fact that since he's afraid of traveling, he shouldn't play basketball so as not to find himself traveling.
[of course most jokes ceases to be jokes if they have to be explained]

True 😁

Nice explanation tho, thanks 👍

thesicilian:




It's just a little word play.
In basketball traveling is a term to describe an offense in which you take more than 2 steps without dribbling.
The joke lies in the fact that since he's afraid of traveling, he shouldn't play basketball so as not to find himself traveling.
[of course most jokes ceases to be jokes if they have to be explained]

Got it. Nice one

toms55:
Move out of Nigeria first, by the time you experience smooth road, sweet journey unlike Naija ur phobia go reset

It is not really bad roads the leading cause of road accidents in Nigeria as many people erroneously believed, it is actually reckless driving and disregard for driving rules.

Exgee:
Hi guys,

I don't know what's wrong with me. Growing up, my best moment was whenever I was traveling(By road). I used to enjoy this.

You are not alone. I can understand your fear and predicament. I was involved in two separate highway accidents back in 2011 and it changed my decision regarding travellings. Till today since that time, I only embark on unavoidable travelling and with the same thoughts throughout the journey. I couldn't do without sleeping during journeys but since after those accidents, I found it difficult to sleep during long journey.
I don't travel for weddings or naming ceremonies, not even businesses. PTSD is real

maasoap:


You are not alone. I can understand your fear and predicament. I was involved in two separate highway accidents back in 2011 and it changed my decision regarding travellings. Till today since that time, I only embark on unavoidable travelling and with the same thoughts throughout the journey. I couldn't do without sleeping during journeys but since after those accidents, I found it difficult to sleep during long journey.
I don't travel for weddings or naming ceremonies, not even businesses. PTSD is real

I'm so sorry about your tragic experiences. We thank God for sparing our lives. Same here, I don't travel for political campaigns, weddings, burials etc. I can't travel on a journey that would take me two hours

You wouldn't know what you have come through not until you sit down and think about it deeply will make you know that you have survived so many death me and that's because God loves you, l don't know how much you did prayed but one thing l can tell you is that God still needs you for a purpose

me OP. Send me an email through my profile. Once Nairaland pushes the email to me, I'll respond and we can take it from there.

There's a safe and effective solution to your problem.

joeruano:
me OP. Send me an email through my profile. Once Nairaland pushes the email to me, I'll respond and we can take it from there.

There's a safe and effective solution to your problem.

Done!

U no travel cos u dey fear to die, aeroplane ✈️ never crash for ur head b4?

maasoap:


It is not really bad roads the leading cause of road accidents in Nigeria as many people erroneously believed, it is actually reckless driving and disregard for driving rules.

Ikr however we are trying therapy to ease OP’s phobia

Exgee:
Hi guys,

I don't know what's wrong with me. Growing up, my best moment was whenever I was traveling(By road). I used to enjoy this.

But since I clocked 25, I no longer find it pleasurable traveling, I'm always scared of traveling. I fear that I may be involved in an accident that could maim or kill me. I have not been able to share this with anyone cos I don't know how to. Some years ago, my friend and I had a terrible ghastly accident that almost costed us our dear lives. We were returning back from the village in the early(6am) hours of the morning and before we would exit the village, the brakes of our vehicle(Lexus 350) failed and the speed of the car tripled. I saw death, I came in direct with death, but God saved me. My friend who was driving was quickly rushed to the hospital where he spent a week but I was lucky to not be much affected. I only had a cut on my lips and head. The vehicle somersaulted countless times. Farmers who were on their way to the farm that morning and heard the sound of the car somersaulting refused coming to help us. They said they didn't want to see Dead bodies at that early time of the morning, they didn't know we survived.

Sometimes again, I had another accident. I was about running mad when I eventually managed to pull out of the car, I had use my head to hit everywhere. These two accidents involving two different cars were all sold as scraps cos the damage were irreparable. And if they were to be fixed, the money would be more than imagine.

Again, my father died from a motorbike (Vespa) accident many years ago while I was just 7years. He didn't die on the spot, he even brought himself back home that night unaided. No external injuries but he had internal bleeding which wasn't detected in time, at 4am, mum took him to the hospital as pains in his chest became intense and at 7am, he gave up the ghost. The psychological impact of all these still affect me, I guess.

How do I overcome this please?
Its so bad that whenever a loved one is traveling, I will be saying in my mind that the person might die on the road and that we may never see again. God pls help me!

God has saved me countless times and if I begin to write here, we may not go to bed tonight.
To God alone be all the Glory!

Most prospective travellers suffer from these thoughts because our roads are a death trap, so your anxiety is not far-fetched. However, you can overcome it one baby step at a time. A child does not go from being birthed to walking. It's a process that must be systemically followed. Thus try embarking on shorter trips. This overtime helps you overcome the fear of travelling. You may also breakdown a long distance trip into shorter trip of a couple of days.


It also seems you've created a pattern of road mishap that seems to be your family's thing thus, a vision board for the d*vil. You need to jettison this thought. Your father's demise via bike accident and the two accidents you suffered are disparate and orthogonal so don't try to link them. A man becomes as he thinketh.

Exgee:


Done!

I've sent you an email